- 1 year ago
- Wedding: September 2019
I can say the situation does suck – I am in a similar one, down to the anxiety (which I deal with myself).
My future SIL got engaged 3 days before her brother proposed to me. We had back-to-back vacations with both of our families, and her fiancé wanted to propose with her family around, and mine wanted to with my family there. Flash forward a few months and my future SIL moved up her 2020 wedding to Aug 2019, after we had set a September 2019 date for our wedding. And I took it personally (thoughts of shes stealing the spotlight, wants to be the center of attention…) for more longer than I am willing to admit, and was really offended. I can admit I cried to my mom about it. I felt overwhelmed and took it to heart, but came out the other side thinking rationally.
But (almost) no one gets married out of spite. People get married because they want to spend the rest of their lives with someone else and want to celebrate this decision, and I cant blame her for wanting to shorten the length of time before she gets to marry her fiancé.
You get a day (or a couple days, including showers and rehearsals) to be the center of attention.. And that is it. No one cares about your wedding as much as you two will, because it is your day. A wedding is a celebration, and if the weddings end up close to each other, then it is double the party. Your weddings may have, I would imagine, max 50% guest overlap, which may be hard on out of towners, but most people are wanting to celebrate you, and can make it work with a little accommodation if it becomes an issue.
And bonus if your wedding is second and can borrow some decor from the first 😉