(Closed) Female problems killing my sex life .. gyno says its fine

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly, to me it sounds like the normal changes your body does via cervical “mucous” during your cycle. I would suggest checking out “taking charge of your fertility” so you can learn more about it. If your Dr. thinks your healthy you probably are. Have you changed any BC or anything? Perhaps that’s the “change.” but honestly, what you just described is a correlation of what your body goes through around ovulation.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You are not the only one… i am 27 and the same thing has been happening to me. The doctor said i was fine and nothing was wrong. the bf and i always take a shower before and after. It is normal as you get older your body changes and remember no one is ever the same, everyones body is different. 🙂 i also carry around summer eve wipes to make me feel fresher through out the day.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, first, there probably isn’t an issue. Do yourself a favor, go to Amazon, Barnes and Noble, etc and get yourself a copy of Taking Charge of your Fertility. Every month there are changes in our Cervical Fluid that are relating to our fertility. What you listed as “symptoms” of something going “wrong” are exactly “normal” phases of the CF to a T. This is actually part of signs that we look for when using the Sympto-Thermal method to prevent or achieve pregnancy. If you did stop the pill 4 months ago I’m sure that is part of it as your body adjusts.

What drives me nuts is that Dr’s will tell you “oh it’s normal” but not educate you! So many Dr’s are not educated about Fertility Awareness and this is basic stuff we should know! So many people (like you and myself before I learned about it) think something is wrong or “off” about their body because no one teaches us about it and dr’s just prescribe the pill for anything and everyone. Dr’s don’t believe me when I tell them I’m not on BC. Really? Since when did women have to be on BC to be a “woman?” Sorry, I digress.

Don’t stress yourself out. Start charting and that way as well when you see your Dr. you can show them exactly what’s happening. And perhaps find a new Dr. who is familiar with FAM. Once you learn this stuff, you can use it to achieve or postpone a pregnancy, thus rendering a pill useless. It’s free, your body is already telling you everything, it’s better for the environment, and you will know as soon as something actually IS off. What you describe though? Normal.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was just going to say it sounds hormonal. It also sounds very normal. My hair started getting wavy when i was in my mid-twenties after a lifetime of stick straight hair, which hairdressers will tell you is related to hormonal changes. I didn’t feel different, but there it was. If I remember correctly, my hairdresser said that it happens roughly every 7 to 10 years or so, but don’t quote me on that.

I’ll tell you a secret–we do get tired of saying the same thing over and over again sometimes, because nothing’s going to change. 😉 But we also understand that it’s because the answer is unsatisfying for some reason, either because it seems way too simple (“it has to be more than that!”) or you think it’s something bigger than it really is because it’s never happened to you before (although we see it all the time so we’ve seen the proof that it’s really not that big a deal). I know the answer is unsatisfying, but it really does sound like very normal hormonal changes which happen in your mid-late twenties or so.

Your husband said it himself–it’s not at all bad, just different. I know how hard it is not to be self-conscious about it, though. Can you talk to him about it and see if he can give you some reassurance for a little while when you’re being intimate?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i have also heard that changes in your diet can cause changes in discharge color and consistency.  Not really sure about the details, but this might be something to research.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ditto the hormonal issues. I’ve had some of these mucous issues before when I was on different medications that drastically changed my body’s hormones, but yours is probably just a natural fluctuation. If your husband isn’t worried about it, try to take on that mindset. After all, a lot of NOT pretty stuff comes out of him, too =]

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with the other bees that it sounds like normal changes because you went off the BC.  But I think you need to see a new doctor because someone being dismissive with you and not telling you what the cause of the changes is ridiculous.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

well, im a dr and based on ur post, everything seems normal. the most important thing is to rule out infection. and tht has already been done.

sometimes, the normal bacteria in the vagina increase in number, u can simply use a bicarbonate based vaginal wash for that.

any discharge that doesnt itch, smell or is yellow-green in color is considered physiologic.

actually secretion can is a part of healthy ovulatory menstrual cycles, mid cycle secretions mean that ur ovulating.

as the girls have already said, taste can be part of diet, yougurt, strawberry, pineapple makes u taste nice.

stop worrying, every single woman is really conscious abt the way she looks, tastes or smells downthere. but just be confident and get more intimate w ur hubby and ull forget about it.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

Has your diet changed? I find that when my diet changes, so do a lot of things, including what goes on down yonder 😉

Also, (TMI) I know guys’ semen tastes/smells differently as a result of what they eat.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I’ve never had an abnormal pap smear and I’ve always thought myself to have a heavier secretion. It usually changes a lot around ovulation, and I’ve heard a lot about women going through another big hormone change around 25. I wouldn’t worry about it. I have noticed though that some baby powder in the area helps keep the moisture down so it’s not as annoying. Hope it helps!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with the above poster (MissAsB) who said that you should switch doctors. While I am sure your discharge is normal, especially since the doctor has tested you, that doesn’t mean that he can’t talk to you about possible causes or things you should try to change it.

While I agree that the discharge is probably normal and not a cause for concern (health-wise), that doesn’t mean that I don’t sympathize with your feelings about it. I was on the same birth control for a long time and then one month I just started getting this very strange discharge–it was odorless, and not itchy, but I would have profuse white and yellow clumps, which would of course make their appearance during/after intercourse or other sexual acts. It really made me feel self-conscious and less interested in sex. My doctor told me I was normal and that this was just a normal vaginal discharge, nothing more. She just dismissed me basically.

For me, it must have been hormonal, because I went off of that birth control and everything was fine. Alright, there wasn’t anything medically wrong with me, but the discharge wasn’t normal *for me* and it bothered me. Your doctor should be able to understand that. I wonder, could you have some kind of allergy to your condoms or lube, since it’s only been in the last few months? Or maybe your hormones will even themselves out, since you are adjusting to being off the pill. Of course I don’t know what the issue is, but I wanted to say that I felt your pain!

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