(Closed) Female proposing.

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would YOU propose to your man?
    Yes. : (60 votes)
    30 %
    No. : (142 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 47
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    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m supportive of women proposing.

    But I wouldn’t do it. 

    1) I want to be proposed to, [email protected]

    2) He’s kind of old-fashioned and would want to do it…

    …theoretically…

    …since I’m still not engaged…

    hmmm. 

    I have thought about proposing, but have not for the above reasons. 

    Post # 48
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    935 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I don’t see anything wrong with it! A friend of mine (her and her husband officiated at the last wedding I was in) proposed to her guy one night and the next day they went out and bought rings! I think it works if you have the comfort level in the relationship, and if that’s your personality.

    But I wouldn’t do it. I’m with the gals that couldn’t handle the possible rejection becuase of our own insecurities….why take the risk? Also my guy is very traditional.

     

    Post # 49
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    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @lilybee:

    Our whole relationship I’ve been the one to move things forward.

    Same here. I asked him out… I initiated the first kiss… and the “first time”… my guy is shy, and I’ve thought about proposing but honestly, I’m just tired of always having to make the first move! The next one’s all on him!

    Though it’s not what I want for my relationship, I think it’s awesome if the lady wants to propose.

    Post # 50
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    1295 posts
    Bumble bee

    @lilybee:  I voted No I wouldn’t propose to my SO.  I did it as a joke around one year of dating and he said yes b/c he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.  I gave him a ring pop to wear and everything lol. I didn’t expect him to say yes but he also said it didn’t count because he didn’t propose to me.  He’s traditional so there is no point in me proposing and I can’t wait for him to propose to me.

    Post # 51
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @Vegan – it’d be the same for me.  I haven’t said “Will you marry me?”  I have said “Can I keep you?” “Can I marry you?” and other such things.  He just chuckles and kisses me.  I have no problem with proposing, but with my guy, I can’t.  He doesn’t take it as a proposal.

    Post # 52
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    10363 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I almost did propose to him, and then I actually asked him what he thought about it. It turns out that since he knew I would be doing a lot of the wedding planning, he really wanted to do an elaborate proposal and have his chance to do somthing big and cool. But he would have been fine with it if I had proposed (I decided that was fair and let him have his moment in the sun!)

    Post # 53
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    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I wouldn’t. Basically I just feel like the society standard is for a man to propose. So if he hasn’t proposed that means he isn’t ready to get married. 

    Post # 54
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    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I kind of did propose, only not in a formal way.  I just said:

    “If we’re going to get married, it would have to be this summer.”

    “Ok.”

    “So I’m going to start planning the wedding for July 4th, ok?”

    “Ok.”

    “You just let me know when you’re going to propose.  I suggest before our engagement photo shoot so I’ll have a ring.  But it’s up to you.”

    “Ok.”

    Seriously.  LOL

    Post # 57
    Member
    5656 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    No, because I’m traditional. It’s bittersweet.

    Post # 58
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    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yes. I did yesterday. And he said yes. 🙂

    Post # 59
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    2777 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I did. He said no.

    For us, it wasn’t something that he was comfortable with. We had talked marriage. We had talked future and house with a white picket fence and all that. We’re equals in our relationship but for my husband it was really important for him to be the one to propose and he explained that to me after he originally said no. I didn’t question it, I just went away and waited for it to happen. I suggest you try to figure out what your SO thinks about it – he may feel like less of a man if he doesn’t do it (in that weird way that men think) and so therefore might be a bit confused and/or upset if you do propose to him. 

    But if it works for you then go for it! Why not? We’re in the 21st century after all. 🙂

    Post # 60
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    13563 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t because he and I are both pretty traditional.

    Post # 61
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    6245 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    I have no problem with women proposing, but I personally have always wanted my man to propose to me.

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