Post # 1
My fiance has asked one of his female cousins — they are very close — to stand up for him on his side. Let’s call her M. M will be wearing the same dress as the bridesmaids, same style shoes, etc. My question is about her flowers. I asked my florist if she had any ideas about making M’s bouquet slightly different than the BMs’ bouquets, just because I thought it’d be cute and fun. The florist suggested instead that M wear a fancy wrist corsage, 1) to be different, and 2) because it may look strange to have her holding a bouquet while standing next to men who are not carrying anything.
Has anyone done this or seen it done? Do any of you have any suggestions — and do you think the florist is right about a bouquet on his side looking strange? I’ve seen many pictures of mixed bridal parties, but of course I can’t seem to find any now! I would appreciate any thoughts very much. Thank you.
Post # 3
i think the wrist corsage would look nice. Ive also seen it done where the woman carried a single flower instead of a bouquet.
Post # 4
When I first read the title, I thought: what about a wrist corsage? But then that was already suggested. I think that it would look great and then you have some coordination with the groomsmen (corsage similar to bouts) and bridesmaids (same dress, etc.)
Post # 5
I agree, I like the wrist corsage idea!
Post # 6
I think your florist is right. A corsage (though I’m more a fan of pinned ones than wrist ones) might work and look really sassy, or you could distinguish her with a really cute clutch rather than flowers.
Post # 7
A wrist corsage is a good idea. BUT in most pictures that I’ve seen, the groomsmen tend to cross their hands in front of them. Picture a broad, masculine stance. If this cousin receives a wrist corsage, she might feel a little awkward with nothing to do with her hands.
I’ve seen a full bouquet done for a female who is standing on the groom’s side, and it looked great! She looked very formal and "bridesmaids-y" but was clearly up there to support the grooms side as well. She will already stand out as a female on the groom’s side, so I would give her whatever you would like best. A wrist corsage isn’t going to make her "blend in" with the groomsmen, and you don’t really want her to, anyway.
Post # 8
When I’ve seen this done, the girl on the groom’s side carried a normal bouquet just like the bridesmaids did.
For me, I like the idea of just having her carry a bouquet. People are so used to seeing women in the wedding party with bouquets that I do not think it would look strange at all. Plus, granted, I’m sensitive, but if I were standing on the groom’s side in a wedding and I received a corsage instead of a bouquet, I’d think something like, "What’s the deal? Am I not ‘girl enough’ for a bouquet just because I’m supporting the groom?" Of course it REALLY wouldn’t matter, but I know I’d wish I had a bouquet like the other girls in the wedding party. However, maybe your fiance’s cousin likes to be a little different.
I do think a corsage would look fine too, so no worries if that’s what your instincts are telling you. I don’t think you have a "bad" choice. You just have to choose between a few good options. 🙂
Post # 9
I really like the idea of a wrist corsage – except for what to do with her hands. She can fold them, but that can sometimes feel awkward. When I’ve seen a grooms-woman, they have had a bouquet.
Post # 10
I’ve been in a wedding where the groom’s sister stood with him, and she carried the same bouquet that we did. Actually, the bride’s brother stood with us. I don’t think it looked that strange to have her carry the bouquet. I agree with the comments that without a bouquet she might feel awkward about what to do with her hands.
We’re having a mix of genders on both sides, my brother with me, my fiance’s sister and close female friend from forever with him. I might have my brother wear a different vest, but I was planning on similar flowers for his sister and friend.
Post # 11
Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts. I will now adopt your point of view, linzella, and consider myself lucky to have two very viable options. 🙂
I was planning on asking her what she’d prefer anyway, and I feel much better about the wrist corsage idea after this — thank you! Now I don’t have to say, "Or you could do this other weird wrist thing…" or some such. 🙂
Post # 12
None of my bridesmaids wore matching dresses or stood up with us, but they each had a wrist corsage, so I have a piece of advice: Go as small as possible with the wrist corsage. Even just two roses looked prom-y. It’s pretty much the one thing I wish I could have a do-over on.
Post # 13
I think you should ask her what she would like: bouquet v corsage.
If you go the corsage route, I totally agree with Lina on the prom-y thing, though.
Post # 14
I like the wrisy corsage too.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
I prefer the wrist corsage idea myself, but I’d ask the bridesmaid her opinion.
Post # 16
We had a mixed gender wedding party at our wedding. I wanted my 2 brothers to stand up with me on my side and my husband wanted his sister on his side. So we had 4 ppl on each side but mixed gender. All the girls held the same bouquet of flowers, all different dress styles but everyone in black and we think it looked great! Here’s a visual for you.
There’s a random pic in there of my shoes which I didn’t mean to upload and don’t know how to delete! The other 3 are of the wedding party.