(Closed) Feminism = the right to change/or not to change your name.

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I am going to add my maiden name to my middle name (so I’ll have two middle names) and take FH’s last name. It works better for me than hyphenating because neither of our last names are short. I don’t care if I get judged either way. It’s none of anyone’s business but my FH’s and mine. That’s the way I look at it.

Post # 4
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree 100%!

I feel that often you get judged for taking your husbands name moreso than keeping your maiden name (or at least this is my experience in my profession and in my circles).

I am changing my name to my husbands; however, many of my co-workers and friends have done what you are planning on doing and basically go by both names.

Post # 5
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

@simplifiedbride:

I mentioned to my guy that if we marry, I’ll be taking both names and using his first so that my last name remains last.  You’re right though, you’re judged if you do and judged if you don’t 🙁

Post # 7
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

@simplifiedbride: It’s my name…it’s who I have been for 30 years, 6 months and 2 days. I have built a brand professionally and I will not discard it. My decision is  FIRST NAME, MAIDEN NAME, MARRIED NAME and my SO is not bothered by it.

Post # 8
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1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@simplifiedbride: “Feminism is all about having choices” – Exactly! These days, women get to choose what to do regarding the whole name change issue. Whether a woman opts to stay with her maiden name, take her husband’s name, take her wife’s name, support her husband while he changes his name, take on an entirely new family name, or whatever, the key is that she has a choice. Judging a woman for the choice she makes is missing the point entirely. 

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