anev : Firstly I want to tell you what a great idea it was for you to start this board! I think it will help many people not feel so alone (though the infertility boards here are so supportive).
As for my story, it took my Darling Husband and I 14 cyles to get a BFP. We started trying in December 2016, though we were NTNP for a couple months before that. I was temping, using OPKs, prenatals, etc… After about 6 months of trying I got worried, and consulted with my GP after what I thought was a likely chemical pregnancy (she agreed). She sent me for some basic bloodwork, and it turns out I was subclinically hypothyroid, which is not an issue unless TTC. I was put on medication, but it took about 4 months to get the dosage correct, and my TSH levels where they needed to be. At the 1 year mark, my doctor sent me for additional testing, CD3, CD28 bloodwork, and my Darling Husband had a SA. Everything came back normally, so we were referred to an RE.
However the waitlist for the RE was very long, so we just had to wait for them to call us to schedule an appointment. On my 14th cycle of actively trying, I got a BFP, I was scared due to the previous chemical pregnancy. I told my Darling Husband, and that same week we got a call from the RE clinic, who wished us luck but told me if I miscarried to call them and my referral was good until the end of 2019. I kept POAS almost everyday until week 9, my Darling Husband thought I was being crazy, but it was all I could do to ease my anxiety. I even bought a home doppler, and tried for over a week to hear the foetus’ heartbeat, when I finally did. I had my first ultrasound at 11w4d, and everything was alright. I am currently 15w1d, and everything is going well so far.
I am very aware of people’s struggles with infertility, have talked to many friends, opened up about my loss, heard about others’ losses. You never realize how many people have struggled, have had loss after loss, unless you start talking about it. I am very open to people about my journey, therefore if they just want someone to listen to, they may open up themselves. I admire the strength any resiliance of people struggling for years, because the emotional turmoil is real and not public enough. No one should ever ask you when you will have kids, it is something you should choose to speak of, but no one else should be entitled to ask about your reproductive plans.