(Closed) Fertility treatments… when to tell boss?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
3728 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I wouldn’t tell. Trust me, they may not notice or care. I took 6 or 7 medical appointments in a 3 month period last year (vs 3 total in 4 years). My boss didn’t notice. She seemed genuinely surprised when I gave the reason for me being out so much. She only noticed the day I didn’t return from my lunch doctors appointment (I was supposed to bring back cupcakes to a baby shower, but instead found out I miscarried and went right to the hospital).

If you say something, be vague. People “baby track” you easily. And they watch you like a hawk when they know you’re TTC ing.

Post # 17
15144 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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Pollywog:   People “baby track” you easily. 

+1   I wouldn’t tell my boss if I were just TTC “normally” so why should I feel the need share TTC with treatments.  It has nothing to do with being ashamed.  It’s more about being “baby tracked” and just being a private person.

Post # 18
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I would just tell your boss you have a few doctor’s appointments you need to attend. If they pry further, I’d just say it was “lady problems” and leave it at that… they’re probably not going to enquire further if you imply it’s gynecological!

Post # 19
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with PPs about maybe not divulging too much, too soon.  I saw an RE for 7 months and tried all kinds of unsuccessful treatments before moving to IVF.  Once we got to IVF, I felt like I had to say something since it can be kinda unpredictable and not something you can really request off for in advance.  It kinda just depends on when/how your body responds to your particular protocol.  I had to call my boss and tell her I wouldn’t be able to work for several days (due to the egg retrieval) but I didn’t specifically say why other than that I was having a medical procedure. 

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