(Closed) Fess Up Bees. Have you cheated?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you cheated? Check all that apply.

    Yes, I cheated emotionally on a past spouse.

    Yes, I kissed someone else while with a past spouse.

    Yes, I gave/received oral sex to/from someone else while in a past relationship.

    Yes, I had sex with someone else while in a past relationship.

    Yes, I cheated emotionally on my current spouse.

    Yes, I kissed someone else while with my current spouse.

    Yes, I engaged in oral sex with someone else while with my current spouse.

    Yes, I had sex with someone else while with my current spouse.

    I never told my Ex that I cheated.

  • Post # 78
    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I feel horribly for admitting this. I cheating on my now SO when I first turned 21 I just learned what drinking and attention was. I fessed up to him and we are on great terms. I love him and I would never do it again. I know in a previous post I wrote something that could seem like I cheated a lot but I only cheated on him once and it was before we were actually official.

    Post # 79
    30 posts

    So I havent psychially cheatd but I have emotionally. An ex wanted to “work things out” and i let him think we were going to “work things out” while i first starting seeing SO.(we werent oiffical)  SO knows about this and just says “hes not worth your time”. I led said ex into believing i was going to work it out with his emotionally abusive ass and after a few dates i told him there was someone else. Ive never looked back!!

    Post # 80
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @Waitingbee57:  Don’t feel horrible, the most important person’s opinion is your SO’s, who has forgiven you. I have a similar story and 6 years later I’m married to the man I cheated on. It’s not always black and white.

    I think cheating is awful and I would never do it again (have only the once). Like many people here have said, I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship with a guy who kept me around for “friends with benefits” and it was a time in my life I had the lowest self esteem, so I craved that attention. I met my (now) husband and we were dating for a few weeks, but I was also stupidly still hanging out with this other jerk. I ended up cheating with the jerk and broke up with my husband, telling him what I’d done. Luckily it was the event I needed to get some perspective. I stopped seeing the jerk altogether and got myself in a better place emotionally. A few months later, my husband asked me out again. He forgave me and it became the past, thank goodness. And here we are married, happy and completely trusting of one another.

    Whilst thinking about what I did make me feels so disgusted with myself, I don’t think I’m a horrible person. We all make mistakes sometimes.

    Post # 81
    417 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I did, I cheated on my high school boyfriend.  The worst part about it was that I did it for revenge, to make myself feel better.  He was a horrible boyfriend and wasn’t treating me well and was making me feel like no one would ever want to be with me besides him.  So, I found someone who did and I went out on 2 dates with him and I made out with him just to prove to myself that my then boyfriend was wrong.  He treated me badly so instead of breaking up with him I cheated on him to get back at him.  The guy I cheated with wanted more then a couple dates and a makeout session, but I couldn’t do it.  I felt horrible about what happened to begin with.  I decided not to tell my then boyfriend.  Eventually, years after we broke up, we were talking again, he wanted to be friends, and he started being a complete jerk again (totally reminding me why we didn’t work out in the first place) and I blurted out that while we were together I cheated on him and it was because of how he treated me and I could see the pattern starting again and I didn’t want anything more to do with him.  And that was that. 

    I still feel awful for cheating on him, but I can say that I have never cheated on anyone else I’ve been in a relationship with and couldn’t in my wildest dreams imagine cheating on my fiance.  That one time taught me a lot.

    Post # 82
    2113 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @bunnyharriet:  I have never cheated on Fiance, however, I have kissed other people while with him. He knows, he was either there or I told him about it, but it’s not something we consider cheating. 

    Post # 83
    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @bunnyharriet:  Two years ago before Fiance and I moved in together, we weren’t engaged yet, he bumped into a girl he knew at the mall and brought her home. She apparently slept on the sofa, but till this day I have no clue what happened, he swears nothing. Well I was so livided that I was seeing red and called up an old flame, ended up going to dinner and a movie, then ended up back at his place, he tried so hard to put the moves on me but I had started to feel really guilty than left. I was just so mad and hurt, that I wanted to make him feel the same pain I was. I knew it was wrong, but I just was caught up in my anger. To this day I regret that stupid choice I made.


    Post # 84
    311 posts
    Helper bee

    I was knowingly the “other woman” but I have never cheated on someone I was in a relationship with.

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