Few female friends – no shower/bachelorette- feeling sad :(

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016



mrstravelbee12 : These women are not what I would consider close friends. I agree with a PP, after you get settled from being married, you should try to meet some new friends. They may not be BFFs, but surely you can connect with women who are interested in you and your life.

Should our friends be as interested in our wedding as us, no! But these women never mention your wedding?! My work associates would ask how wedding planning was going. Did they want to hear every detail about the wedding, no! But, it was a kind and polite gesture to acknowledge a big event in my life. 

Your friends don’t have to talk about your wedding daily, but as your friend, they should be interested in your life as a whole, and your wedding is a “part” of that. Hopefully you have continued to show interest in their lives as well. 

You and PPs are right, you will still remember this in the years to come… The good news is it will not still sting! Hopefully you will meet some great friends you can make fun memories with and who are interested in your life.

One very important thing to remember… Everything is not what it appears in those cute happy social media pictures! So much of that is for show. But for now focus on planning a wedding that is special to you and your FH! 🙂

Post # 17
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

mariana1114 :  how can i beat that solo bachelorette in Bali. Sounds amazeballs!

Post # 18
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I feel ya. All of my bridesmaids live all over and didn’t organize one. Like you I’m not mad at them just sad I don’t get to experience it. I tried to throw a casual get together in the town my family and some of my friends lives when I was visting but it was me and one other girl. While it was fun it wasn’t the girls night out I was hoping for. There’s a bumble for BFFs? Tell me more about this. I might need to check this out. I’ve recently moved had haven’t made many friends. 

Post # 19
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I think I’ll be in the same situation :/

Post # 20
665 posts
Busy bee

mrstravelbee12 :  I’m not having any of the bridesmaid luncheons, bridal shower, batchelorette party, bar crawl, spa days. My cousins and friends all had multiple showers, trips to Vegas, engagement parties, spa days etc.  my future Mother-In-Law is throwing us an engagement party but that’s it. I have friends but they have kids and/or have been traumatized by weddings or are past the whole partying phase since they are older.  I went gown shopping alone bc my mom died and the rest of my family isn’t really that nice to me and my most stylish friends live.across the country and I would have felt terrible making them feel obligated. Also partially for these reasons I decided to elope just us two. 

I don’t really feel bad and I’m going to share bc it might make you feel better. A lot of times these girl fun feats are drama central. My cousins all had these blow out spa weekends and the fighting was awful. These days many people are strapped for money and are maxed out on time with their kids so doing anything fun for themselves is probably far from their minds. Partying, drinking, brunching is far from a lot of people’s minds. You are a wonderful bride for footing all these bills for the bridesmaids. Why don’t you treat yourself to a spa day. ‘Maybe you know another bride to go with.

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