Few items left on registry…will guests give cash?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What will happen if most of our registry is already purchased?

    Guests will give a check

    Guests will give physical "off registry" gifts

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  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I would think everyone else will give cash. I went to buy something from a registry recently a week before the wedding and only the “cheap” stuff was left so I gave cash instead of buying multiple random items.

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    chyangra :  

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Most people give money at the actual wedding.

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I never give cash for a wedding gift, it is very impersonal.  I will get a gift off registry before I give cash.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

    We only had about 3 items on our registry left by the wedding, and everyone who hadn’t already sent something off the registry gave cash or checks. The only “rogue” gifts were a baby blanket (she had already given us one baby blanket, too) and a rosary, both from his grandmother. 

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    Yes, you will get random and unwanted gifts. We got soooooo many things off-registry and with our name and wedding date as decor and hardly any of it fit us or our home and is sitting in a closet. 

    We got a lot of cash/checks from the wedding. 

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    chyangra :  You can be grateful and accept the gift.  This is also why I never give a gift reciept either.  Too many people have duped others into giving gifts then plan to return them all for money.  

     

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

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    justanormalgal :  That’s a really shitty attitude. If I give a gift, it is in hopes that it makes the receiver happy or it is something they will use – if it doesn’t, I truly hope that they DO return it and spend the money on something they actually want or need. Otherwise it’s pointless and not really in the spirit of giving. I don’t want someone to keep something I gave them solely because I bestowed a gift upon them so they BETTER flipping appreciate it. That makes it more about me than them, so why even bother with a gift in the first place?

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    chyangra :  or you hold onto the item because toasters die quite frequently.  I wouldn’t worry so much about gifts, your getting married!  That is the most important thing.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    justanormalgal :  Okay so I get your point here, but no offense things happen and say you buy something that isn’t the correct color the couple wanted and they want to return it/exchange it you can cause them a bit of a pain when doing so. Or… let’s talk about MULTIPLES. Some registries don’t work properly (one of my didn’t update if something was bought) and people don’t know what is bought or not. I too, ended up with like 4 of the same cake plate and none had a gift reciept. Turns out, I was only allowed to return 2 of 3 because they only allowed a certain dollar amount to be returned without reciepts (under my drivers license that they ask for when returning). 

    Therefore, 

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    chyangra : definitely isn’t being “ungrateful” or “duping” people, but why keep a gift you don’t want or don’t use? She has a very valid point on her last reply to you. 

    ETA based on your response: Why the heck would I keep an extra UN-NEEDED item in my house taking up space? Cabinet space, collecting dust… etc when you could get refunded and use the money towards something useful. I bet the person giving the gift (not you obviously) would want the couple to use the equivalent amount for something they needed rather than their original gift serving no purpose. I know I had a few family members who have similar gift-giving ideas as you do gift us items and I know they withheld a reciept on purpose and it made it a nightmare to return or enjoy the actual cash replacement as we wanted. 

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee

    We got mostly checks. We got a few random gifts but we got random gifts at the shower when the registry was full so I think the people give random gifts will do that regardless.

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