(Closed) Fewer married women are keeping their maiden names? Any idea why?

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I reckon our mothers generation didn’t take their husbands name because feminism was all the rage in a more main stream way than it is now. We really don’t have to worry as much about our equalitiy to men as they did. That being said there is still a long way to go, buts thats for another thread.

 

 I’m taking my FIs name because to me it signals the switch from being daughter of Mr and Mrs so and so to being wife of Mr. C. and that this is our new family together. He doesn’t really mind either way I think. Its just something for me that I want to do. 

I know of a couple who merged their names into a completely new last name. That being said they argued alot about it and spent far more time being concerned about which letters from whos last name were placed where in the new name lol. But for a sane couple that could be something fun if you were concerned about taking his name, but were not to keen on keeping yours.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@mightywombat: Ahhhh I sense that we are on the same wavelength about this issue. 🙂 

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m taking my FI’s name simply because I like to recognize that the two of us are a familial unit.  It still freaks me out to think that I’m going to have the same name as his family though.  I just don’t think of them as family in the same way that I think of my family.  Luckily my Dad was the only boy so there are actually very few family members with my last name, so I don’t feel like I’ll be missing out on that. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

After cursory consideration, I have concluded that

1. that study is not, in fact, a useful indication of how many women take their FI’s last names. 

2. this thread is an accurate test of reading comprehension.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Neva: BAD  CREDITLaughing

 

There are many factors that can attribute to women taking on their married names

1. more traditional brides that believe marriage means taking on new last surname

2. Insurance purposes 

3. prenup agreement 

4. YOu take a little piece of your husband and it become part of you

5.  To sound and look like a family

6. So your children wont ask  why does mommy have a different last name than us

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It must be regional.  I’m seeing that more people are doing what I am planning on doing.  Keeping their maiden name and also adding their husband’s last name.   For example, if I was Becky Smith.   I would become Becky Smith Jones.   No hyphen.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Assuming, of course, that this is a valid study, I think it would be related to that fact the people are much more open minded. It’s good that people realize you can change your name but not become a Stepford wife, and that keeping your name doesn’t make you a rabid man-hater.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

going along the lines of what @helenberrycrunch mentioned, I would venture a guess that since women in the older generation really “fought” for more equal rights for themselves, and women now (for the most part) have equal rights, so they just don’t see it as a big deal, cuz they KNOW that they are not 2nd-class citizens.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Neva: My mom and I were talking about this, and we think it has to do with the change in generations. Generation X seemed to get married later, people were more ‘into’ their professions where Generation ‘Next’ seems to be more family oriented (which may have to do with the way we were raised, the economy, media, who knows- probably a combination of the three). I think this may make a difference, I’m not an expert though.

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