Post # 1
My future father in law plays in a folk band and wants to play at our wedding. Now, the reception is going to be in a medieval castle in Europe and neither my fiance nor I love folk music. Moreover we planned a playlist which suits our venue and tastes. There’s gonna be medieval/renaissance music during the refreshments, just to say we’re in a castle” and later on during and after the dinner music from the 80s/90s/2000…This is what we like and know that most of our guests will appreciate, but his father just doesn’t get it!. My future husband tried to persuade him not to play with his band but he’s already rehearsing….
I know it’s not gonna be the end of the world if he plays with his band, but folk music along with renaissance music is going to sound ridiculous even if it’s only for 10 minutes….
Post # 3
I say try really really hard to find a way that he can play at the wedding. Obviously it’s your wedding and, if you’re paying for it yourself, you get the final say BUT it’s obviously a big deal to him and he’s really excited.
There are lots of oportunities for different kinds of music: ceremony, cocktail hour, during dinner, after dinner dancing. Or special songs. Pick something that can be folk music time and let him play. Then the other times can be the midievil or pop music.
Post # 4
@JenGirl: thanks so much!!! I appreciate your suggestion!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I agree with JenGirl- could you use them for the ceremony music? I think that would be a really nice touch, to have your Future Father-In-Law playing as you walk down the aisle (provided he plays something you’ve selected) They also could play while guests are gathering, etc.
Post # 6
Maybe you could pick ONE song that you all agree on that him and his band can play? Its a compromise but that way Future Father-In-Law still feels good about being able to preform a song for his son’s wedding and you guys don’t feel like its too much.
Post # 7
@rebwana:Thanks rebwana!!! The ceremony is going to be in a Catholic church and it won’t be possible. I wouldn’t mind if he played just outside the church, before we all move to the castle for the refreshment.
I agree I should find a solution and let him play, he’s my FH’s father and don’t want to hurt him.