(Closed) FFIL Drama. Ugh, need some hugs tonight! (LONG)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He was drunk- drunks don’t think. This is unfortunately, an indicator of what life will be like with him

You are going to have to learn to ignore what he says. Your Fiance may also need to call his Dad on his behavior.

Post # 4
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow that’s completely insane!  I think he is a bit crazy/drunk and you just need to try and move past it hun!  You two are responsible and doing great, who cares what people think?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

he is drinking and being a  a-hole, hopefully once he sobers up he’ll realise hes been a dick and will apologize

in the meantime, if he has been drinking and he appears drunk why is your Fiance walking him to his car???

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

HUGS!!!

sounds like he was being a drunk idiot (not trying to diminish his actions), which has happened to the best of us from time to time but talk about awkward! I’m so sorry you had to go through that, he’ll probably feel terrible when he sobers up and realizes what happened! I hope you guys can sort everything out.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I disagree about being drunk being an excuse. When you are drunk you speak what is actually on your mind/how you really feel.

Meet him on neutral ground with your Fiance, make sure he is sober, and explain his behavior and words were unacceptable and will not be tolerated.

I’m sorry for your crappy night :/

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@M.Ruder:

Oh my God. I am soooooooooo incredibly sorry to hear all this has played out for you tonight. That’s really ridiculous. It was without a doubt extremely rude. He’s coming into your home and ranting and raving at you. Wow! Nerve. I’d be asking myself the same thing…WTF? Then I would say to him, if you got to know me a little better, you’d see I am not the horrible person you say I am.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

So you had a person who was drunk “testing” you….ugh….that’s awful and unfortunately, I can relate to your situation. I’m sorry this happened to you!

Like PP stated, perhaps there will be a time when he is sober and you can discuss what happened, how it made you feel and how it is unacceptable to speak to you that way.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

i feel terrible about you going through all of this unnecessary maddness. you are obviously the sweetest and your Fiance is a lucky man, maybe your the karma balance to his dad? please accept my hugs!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

*Hugs* wow, what nerve. Sounds like, yes, that did just happen and I’m so sorry. 🙁 Definitely a WTF moment. Hopefully that was a one-time deal…and that he’ll be nothing but sugar and pie to you from now on. 😉

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Wow, that sucks.  Big hugs!

I reckon what he said on the way out was to cover his drunken arse and make an excuse for himself.

He’s going to feel like shit in the morning.  Love to see if you get a call tomorrow with an apology!  I bet he’ll be very nice from now on in, or at least for a while 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee

WTH???? I don’t think him being drunk excuses what he said/ did (but that’s not what this thread is about). Chances are he made the ‘testing’ bit up because your Fiance kicked him out and he made some silly excuse up.

What an awkward position to be in! I hope this doesn’t accept your future encounters with him too much

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Sorry to hear that you are going to have this guy as your Father-In-Law and that he hurt you!

I don’t think drinking alcohol is any excuse for that sort of behavior but I would be interested to hear how he responds to you over the next few days. 

Also it might be a little irrelevant but did you allow him to get in to his car?!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ugh that’s terrible.  I would think that perhaps a sit down between your FH and your Future Father-In-Law is warrented and that you should at the very least receive and appology.  It sucks that he pulled this crap, but I supposed distancing yourself for the time being is good, but eventually dealing with this guy is going to have to happen.  I would think a tough word or two from your FH about you being his wife, and that you are his family, that he can’t come around drunk … lay down the law … will clear things up for this guy in the future.

on a side note .. AWESOME JOB wrapping presents thru this!

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