(Closed) FFIL has terminal cancer… Anyone lose a parent while planning the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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Helper bee

I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁 my Future Father-In-Law passed away a couple months ago so I know how hard it can be.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

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MsKnitter:  I’m sorry for your loss. I got married June off this year and my now DH’s mother got very sick 2-3 months before the wedding. She was diagnosed with cancer 1.5 years ago but apparently the medication she was on for her bad heart was a blood thinner (she knew this) but she also decided to take advil/tylenol for pain. This ate away at her stomache. She was in the hospital for about 2 months before the wedding. finally 2 weeks before the wedding she was transfered to Hospice center and passed away 4 days before the wedding. Pretty freaking surreal. She was in a lot of pain in the hospital and to be honest, it gave me peace knowing she was no longer feeling so much pain. The best man made a short speech about her (but he was drunk so it was actually pretty awkwarddddddd!!!!!!) and we had her picture along with my mom’s picture on a small table close to the entryway. 

How are you guys doing? It’s so difficult, but add on planning a wedding….it can really send you over the edge. Sending love and warm wishes your way. I’m kind of feeling extra emotional tonight (about my mom, not DH’s) so this thread kinda hit me a little :-/

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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MsKnitter:  Thats a coincidence sort of that it happened on may 1st, becauase i lost my mom on May 8th of this year. my wedding was August 1st. it was so hard but honestly the wedding planning helped me along to not think about it. I did a lot of things to honor my mom at the wedding & let everyone remember her there so she was not forgotten. We also left a seat open for her at the church & at the reception hall. its so hard, but just remember to be there for FI! Especially after the wedding. after everything was done it kind of hit me because i had put off grieving because it was too hard & i wanted to remember my wedding as a  happy time. 

So sorry for the loss by the way, it seriously stinks. 🙁 

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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MsKnitter:  So sorry about yours and your FI’s loss, bee. 🙁 The pain is unreal losing a loved one, and that’s a great idea to do a remembrance table.

My dad got admitted to the hospital the week of my wedding. He got drastically sicker until two days before the wedding, the doctor told us that he wouldn’t make it down the aisle with me. The next morning (Friday), DH & I married in his critical care room, and Dad got moved to hospice later that night. The next day (Saturday) we had our big wedding that we planned for a year for everyone that had traveled, and then my dad passed away that night. The day after my wedding we had his body viewing, then the funeral the day after. The diagnosis included acute myeloid leukemia. That was almost 3 months ago and since then, I got diagnosed with clinical depression and have been seeing a counselor and starting grief therapy with groups. I highly recommend the group therapy for losing a loved one, if you or your Fiance needs it. Best wishes. oh, and knitting has helped me, too.

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