- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
A friend of mine warned me when I got engaged that family involvement might get to the point where I want to say forget it an elope! But I didn’t really think it would since I was paying for everything and I am a slight control freak (I can admit to my flaws! lol) My family is absolutely not the problem here…It’s his family. His mom has been amazing, she’s got my best interest at heart and loves helping me. His parents are divorced though, and they had a nasty relationship. They don’t get along now, and she understands his attitude and how angry I am with him right now.
My Future Father-In-Law is also a control freak, when I say he ‘offered’ to buy our wedding cake and do all of our photography for free, people wonder why I am being such a bitch about him. He never actually offered, he just told me that he is doing it and not to look for anyone else. I wrote a post a couple weeks or so ago about not wanting the cake he was willing to buy. I was so scared and nervous to tell him I didn’t want this cake because his attitude is just so unreasonable, so I picked out a cake that was the closest to what I wanted and decided it would turn out fine. Then I found out that the women he was having make the cake just found out she has cancer. As a concerned women and as someone who has watched her grandma suffer through treatments I know how hard it is on someone. I asked him if he thought she would even be up to making a cake for 80 people and delivering it an hour away from her home. He never answered me, and never got her number for me to speak with her. This is where my brain kicks into gear and I start finding a plan B in case she is too sick. I know it’s months away but cancer treatments don’t just stop making you feel sick so you can bake a cake!
Well 2 nights ago I finally decided to email him and tell him I had found someone else to make my cake. I told him I didn’t set anything in stone because I wanted to speak with him first. I told him it was nothing personal but I am the kind of person that needs to line all her duckies up in a row and be positive things are working out. I need to know that if this women suddenly needs hospitalized (she’s an older women, this isn’t going to be a walk in the park for her) or just doesn’t feel well, that I will still have a cake. It’s not me being rude and seeing an escape route to a different cake, it’s just me being concerned. Well, I told him I needed to hear from him ASAP about this and what he thought or if he’s already paid this women because I need to know if I should book this other person. He hasn’t answered me, not sure if he’s pissed of or is ignoring me. he checks his email every day because he gets messages from his work and from people who want him to do their pictures.
I am always very respectful to him and always answer his demanding questions as soon as he asks them because if not he will call my Fiance and badger him to death about stuff he doesn’t even know the answers to, which will sometimes cause a sore spot between Fiance and myself. I am just about ready to say the hell with it and move on. I can’t jeopardize losing this other women and then have no one to make my wedding cake. I will pay for the cake and a photographer myself at this rate if it means he wont be there breathing down my neck about things. I can’t imagine him being my photographer…It’s going to be a nightmare! Him and Fiance don’t really get along either. It’s going to be full to tension and him yelling because Fiance wont smile or wont stop putting his head down, or dumb stuff.
*sigh* I wish this man would just be more reasonable! I just don’t even want to deal with him at this point. My Fiance told me he wished he would have never gotten involved and that he honestly didn’t even care if he was there or not. How sad :/
Well ladies, I just needed to vent for a minute. I tend to avoid these conversations with him and his mom, no need to fuel the fire there. Thanks!