(Closed) FFIL wants to be our band…Good or bad idea???

posted 9 years ago in Music
Post # 3
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

My instinct is that no, it’s not a good idea, but I can’t necessarily back that up. Have you actually talked to Future Father-In-Law about this? Because your Boyfriend or Best Friend might not even really know what his father wants to do at the wedding; he could be dead wrong. 😉

Post # 4
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmm. Tough one. You don’t want to offend him or seem unappreciative but it’s not the sort of music you want. Honestly, I think it’s kind of weird that he would want to be playing all night at his son’s wedding. Obviously he loves playing music, but still – there’s a time and a place. I think it would be cool for them to play during cocktail hour, though. I think you need to come to some sort of compromise with him where he plays for the cocktail hour but not the entire reception. As father of the groom he should be socializing with his family and friends and getting to know your family and friends better and honestly I think I’d be a little offended if my Future Father-In-Law didn’t want to socialize at all at the wedding! I mean, he’s in a band, he’s onstage all the time, it’s not like he has social anxiety disorder or anything.

Post # 5
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception

I had the same situation, HoneyBear! My FI’s parents are both in a country/classic rock cover band together. They wanted to be the entertainment at the reception, and seemed really excited about it, but the problems were 1.) their band is not that good and 2.) we’re not really into county/classic rock for the reception. I had Fiance handle this situation for sure, but we decided that he should tell them that since they are the parents of the groom, people would want to celebrate with them and congratulate them and whatnot. Seems to have worked!

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i hear you say you want romance but how much dancing and partying can you do to romance when blues will get the crowd up and dancing and paryting? (unless i got the wrong interpretation of blues)

plus its what your Fiance wants

i would say yes


Post # 8
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think having them at the cocktail hour would be fine, but your Fiance needs to tell them that since they are the parents of the groom, they have a social responsibility to be social and gracious partial hosts. Even if they’re not paying for the wedding, they still are his parents and people will want to congratulate them!

Post # 9
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’d say no.  It’s his son’s wedding, you don’t want him working it!  Plus, what if something goes badly?  If you’ve contracted someone, you can do something about it legally.  If it’s just Future Father-In-Law and his band, it’s just years of bad feelings.

Post # 11
7386 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I like your compromise to let him play during cocktail hour.  But not all night.  You should have music that you like! 

Post # 12
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

They’re a blues band…but do they play other genres?

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