Post # 1
Im beginning to get mentally, emotionally and physically drained with planning and putting together ideas for our wedding. Its getting to the point where, its ALL that I think about! So, its ALL that I talk about! And I can tell that my hubby is getting annoyed. Every time I mention something about it, he gets noticeably cranky and its very discouraging to me. Honestly, HE is the one who wants to have a wedding not me. As long as I marry him and have a beautiful ring and a nice honeymoon, Im good. =) But its him who wants this and I have to plan it. Im very proactive which is why we have already viewed 3 different venues. Ive set a deadline of Dec 2011 to have our venue booked and Im trying to get this portion settled. But I cant if hes being a stick in the mud!! Ughhhh. How is your FH acting throughout your wedding planning process?? Do you feel my pain?!
Post # 3
Yep! My FH told me the other day that he doesn’t want to talk about the wedding because we used to talk about loads of other stuff and he feels like we’re losing that connection – he even said that at this rate he’d be waiting at the altar for someone he used to have a connection with. OUCH. We’ve only been planning for 3 months and still have 20-odd months to go. I’m not even actively planning things, just getting ideas together for reception and ceremony details. It would be helpful if he wasn’t the only person here I can talk to about the wedding because I live in a city of workaholics who sneer at such frivolous things like a wedding. Ugh.
Post # 4
I have total wedding brain! Everywhere I turn, all I can think of is stuff for the wedding.
My Fiance has been really great with visiting venues, and helping make final decisions. For example, he doesn’t want to agonize over what the wedding colors are. So, I came up with my top-3 choices, and he made the final decision from there. Luckily for us, it was both of our favorites!
I recommend not getting him too involved with the details (i.e., color of napkins), but give him things to handle that he would enjoy. I’m putting my Fiance in charge of music and the honeymoon, and he is really excited about that!
Post # 5
Do things book up super early in your area? If your date is June ’13 and you’re already eyeballs-deep in planning and talking about it all the time, I can see how he’d be annoyed with the wedding talk since you still have just under 2 years to go. My fiance gets on my case about it and we only have 9 months to go… he’d probably kill me if we had 2 years.
I’m sure you’re incredibly excited and want to work on details now, but would you consider holding off for at least another 6 months? Trends/ideas/etc could certainly change over time and dudes can get so bored with hearing about the details (I know mine does).
Post # 6
My idea for not annoying him with wedding talk is: I make a list of things that I want to ask his opinion on, get ideas, etc. Then on Saturday I talk to him about what’s on my list. Not every Saturday, but when I get a few things together that I would like his input on. Sometimes things come up in the interem, that need discussed right away (like our reception venue which has been a pain trying to find one!) But it seems to work out for us =)
Post # 7
My Fiance is the type that says he likes EVERYTHING. I say, which do you prefer? This cake or this cake? and he says I like both. UGH. Now thats frustrating as well. I think it seem to be 50/50 for most women either you hate planning or you absolutely love it. I am def not liking it. I DIY all day and I have no helpful input. I also talk to all the vendors keep everything organized and I just want a break. If it wasnt for us women, the guys would just show up in some cargo shorts and a shirt with jack in the box for dinner. Hang in there.