- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I need some advice about a situation.
My fiance and his sister are not very close. They have always had an up and down relationship and right now it is very down. He was in the Navy and when he was away, he kind of drifted from his family. His parents have been divorced since he was 9 and he has a better relationship with his dad because he relates to him more. He is not very close with his mom and actually holds a sort of grudge against her for whatever reason (there was drama when his mom and dad split up). His mom and his sister are extremely close and my fiance feels that he always comes second to his sister (I agree to a certain extent but he is very stubborn).
Since we started planning our wedding, we have wanted to use one of his nephews as a ring bearer. However, now that he and his sister are not speaking, I am not sure what to do. I am not super close with his sister but we do get along. However, since he has not spoken to her in months, neither have I. I am just not sure what to do. I really don’t want things to be tense with anyone for the wedding.
Also, I am very close with my mom and dad. He has been accepted into my family with open arms and he has said he enjoys being with my family more than his own. I feel like I am always explaining to my mom that some familys are different and he just isn’t close with his.
Oh and his dad is paying for the rehearsal dinner but his mom has not mentioned anything about helping with the wedding. Not a word.
Does anyone have any thoughts or been in a similar situation?