(Closed) FH and I disagreeing on what he should wear for destination wedding!

posted 11 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Do i give up and let him wear what he wants OR keep pushing until I get my way?
    Give up and try to be happy - its his wedding too and he should be comfortable with what he wears : (30 votes)
    88 %
    Keep pushing - its important we match and both are formally dressed for OUR WEDDING! : (4 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    3928 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Sorry, but I think your Fiance should wear something that he is comfortable wearing for the wedding too. It is his day too. He is happy with what you originally chose, so I would go with that. I am sure he won’t look out of place next to you.

    Post # 4
    5165 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you can compromise.. He doesnt have to wear a suit, but he definitely needs to make it dressier than just khaki pants and shirt. Maybe he can add a tie and vest? This will be more formal then just a shirt but not as formal as a suit. 

    Post # 5
    729 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would try to compromise but i do think for pictures it would look best if he had a tan suit since your dress is more formal. Can you gather pictures of different beach looks and try to explain why you think it is important for the two of you to be dresses similar. Plus he is the groom he is suppose to stand out!! Here is what my friend did. The groom wore a light weight tan suit and the groomsmen were more casual. 

    My husband wanted to wear his old beat up brown cowboy boots with his black tux.. our wedding was formal. I knew this was a bad idea from day one so i went and bought him black boots. He liked them and decided it was ok and we were both so glad he had black boots on because the brown old ones would have ruined the pictures! Try showing him pictures so he can visualize what you are talking about. Or even go shopping and check out some options at dillards or mens wearhouse. 

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    Post # 6
    3358 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Why not compromise and go with a light seersucker suit.  It’s a little more dressy but still very light and comfy.


    Post # 7
    992 posts
    Busy bee

    My suggestion would be to go to a bridal salon and try on a dress similar in ‘fanciness’ to yours, and have him stand next to you in first what he wants to wear, and then in what you would prefer him to wear. Maybe seeing how each outfit would look compared to the fancy dress could help you two come to an agreement.

    Post # 8
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think your Fiance should look nice.  You will have these pics forever.  I have seen pics of a groom in khakis and a button up collared t shirt and all I could think of was, why would he wear that on his wedding day?

    Post # 9
    2492 posts
    Buzzing bee

    It’s his wedding too so he should be comfortable. Otherwise, it will show in the pictures and his attitude throughout the event if he’s wearing something that he doesn’t like.

    Post # 10
    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    What are your bridesmaids and groomsmen wearing? I’ve been to a wedding where the bride had on a fancier dress, but the groom, groomsmen and bridesmaids all wore something pretty casual. It didn’t seem that odd because, well you expect the bride to be more dressy.

    Overall, you have a lot of options.

    Post # 11
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee

    My daughter had a beach wedding too and her husband also just wanted to be more casual with no jacket or tie. She really had to talk him in to a suit, and once he tried it on he was excited, as long as he didn’t have to wear a tie. She let him win that one. He wore a beautiful linen suit and a white linen shirt. Groomsmen wore just shirts and pants (linen as well), and you know that an hour into the reception, it really didn’t matter one bit.

    I think you can show him some pictures and let him decide (with some guidance).

    Post # 13
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    i like the idea of the tan suit, if you take the jacket off it can be just as comfortable as a t-shirt and pants (if they fit right) but you are moving into a life of compromise, this is a good opportunity to practice it, talk to him about how you feel, use pictures to give him an idea of the good and the bad look and try to make him visualize it, men are very visual so this should help… let us know

    Post # 14
    4460 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Let him wear what he wants to wear. I think what he originally wanted to wear would be fine for a beach wedding.

    Post # 15
    1397 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    DEFINITELY let him wear what he wants. He didn’t tell you what to wear; you should give him the same courtesy! Besides, what he originally wanted to wear sounds fine.

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