FH doesn’t want cake…or anything like it?

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 2
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481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Hi Bee I’ve been to weddings recently where the guests themselves seem to care less and less about the cake really.  I know he said nothing like it but see if he will be open to the idea of a cake made out of cake pops that is fun.  Guests will appreciate cupcakes for sure! theres also a donut cake, or three homemade pies lined up.  As long as you have some sore of dessert you will be fine. 

Post # 3
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7866 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You already have a dessert, so I get why he thinks 2 are a waste. TBH I never get why there are multiple desserts served – ie a plated dessert and then cake. It seems silly, and if you are only doing it so you can get a cute picture, I’m sure you can do the same thing with your shortcake bar (which sounds amazing!!). 

If he’s been pretty lax about everything else, I tend to be on the side of letting him have this one thing. It is his wedding too! 

We didn’t have cake at all. We did little mini pies that were self-serve (rest of the meal was plated). 

Post # 4
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669 posts
Busy bee

I’ve never been to a wedding without a cake. Is it necessary? Of course not. Will it be noticed? Absolutely. Alot of couples do the small cake for cake cutting, then cupcakes. Or the small cake then a large sheet cake hidden in back that gets cut up and handed out

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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kittemae1990 :  When he thinks “cake”, is he thinking of  traditional multi tiered wedding cake?

Have you shown him pics of a small cake on a pedestal cake stand?

 

Post # 6
Hostess
2535 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

He’s been so relaxed about everything else I’d give him this. 

You can get the same pictures from your shortcake bar as a PP pointed out. 

This isn’t one of those things I would choose to fight over. 

Post # 7
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1704 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think that this isn’t worth disagreeing with your fiance about. You already have a dessert, so I get your fiance’s opinion that another cake isn’t worth it.

We’re doing a dessert table with a donut cake,  small sheet cake,  and cookies in order to give everyone something to like. We’re also having a small keto cake for us to cut and eat since fi and I eat keto. 

Post # 8
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5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Most of the weddings I have been to have had dessert bars instead of cake, this is as well as a dessert after the main course and I have to say hardly any guests look at them twice. Even when there has been a cake I haven’t seen it cut for the guests since I went to weddings as a child.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

if you both dont want cake, i thin not having cake is totally fine.

him “drawing a line” if you want cake seems bizarre to me though, you can have a small cake for ppl who dont want strawberry shortcake.  It’s really not so crazy to give your guests a choice and give you the little photo op you’re hoping for.

FWIW like julies1949 says–you can have cake without it being a big fancy wedding cake.  DH and I bought two cakes (no other dessert) from a local bakery.  They make beautiful cakes, but they aren’t wedding cakes, so we spent less than $200 for 72 servings of cake (which somehow our 40 guests made dissapear! 😮  I’m sure the staff ate some too but still impressed with that one…).

Im pretty sure if you search you can easily find my wedding day recap if you really want to see it, but really we just cut a normal cake similar to one of the ones julies1949 posted a pic of and it was yummy and we got the photo op and all was good.  Nothing to make a fuss over, even if he personally doesnt want any.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

As a guest, if there was no dessert of any kind served, I would definitely notice. I’m someone who really looks forward to cake at weddings.

I’ve never heard of a strawberry shortcake bar. Details?

Post # 13
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899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m not into cake myself, but we still got a small 6in round cake to cut into. and we got cupcakes for the guests, as well as cookies and other pasteries.

If you are serving shortcake, that’s good for the guests. But if you want to do the traditional cake thing, just get a small one for the photos.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Can you cute the biscuit? I am not a dessert person so this would go unnoticed by me. If you’ve always wanted a “cake cutting” moment you need to explain that to him. You only get the one shot at it. I think he can be more flexible… just don’t feed him cake he doesn’t want. 

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