Post # 1
For some reason FH and I got on the subject of wearing our wedding rings. He doesnt wear jewelry, never has. He said he doesnt want a ring because he wont wear it. He said it would feel awkward with a ring on his hand. I find that very offensive. If your married, you need to wear your ring. Its a symbol of committment. Yes you should be committed without the ring, but its just the point.
Am I overreacting? What would you do or say to make him wear it?
Post # 3
I don’t think you’re overreacting, but everyone shows their commitment outwardly in different ways. Is there a compromise you all could come to? I, personally, get offended when I see married men not wearing rings, but I know some can’t because they work with their hands or with electronics or something like that. He still needs to own a ring, and you all should still exchange them at the wedding. What he does after that is up to the two of you.
Post # 4
I would tell him that it is important to you that he wear it because it is an outward symbol to others that he is committed to someone.
When he says that it would feel awkward, does that mean he thinks it’s uncomfortable to wear? If so, let him know that there are plenty of comfortable rings out there and he should make an effort to get used to it. I’m sure if he gives it a chance he might not even notice he’s wearing one after a while.
Post # 5
I’m with @Maestro. I get a little peeved when I know men who are married don’t wear their rings.
My Fiance doesn’t wear jewelry either but he is planning on wearing his ring. However, he is a Fire Marshal, so in certain instances (investigating a fire) he will not wear it because of work.
There are some very cool looking men’s wedding bands out there. Check out tungsten.
Post # 6
What type of job does he have. My Husband doesn’t complain, but we bought him a chain to put it on while he’s at work. He’s a plumber and it would be unsafe for him to wear it on his finger. He wears it on his finger at all other times though.
Also, there are really some cool rings out there. I’m sure he could find something he wouldn’t mind wearing. Let him pick it out maybe he’ll like the idea of wearing it more.
I think he’s selfish and I would totally be offended. The ring does symbolize his commitment. He needs to get over it. A lot of guys never wear jewelry until they get married.
Tell him he needs to wear it when he’s out, if he’s home he can take it off.
Post # 7
I have seen a lot of men who opt not to wear the ring. It bothers me too. My Fiance plans on wearing it though he’s not the jewelry type either. But like you said, that’s not the point. I’d tell him that it hurts your feelings that he doesn’t want to wear it. This would be a fight I’d have to win!
Post # 8
Sorry gotta add one thing. If he gets the cushion cut, that’s supposed to be the most comfortable.
Post # 9
well i will chime in and say that i know quite a few married men who do not wear rings. i don’t think it necessarily says anything bad other than they don’t like jewelry.
that being said… if it bothers you that he wont, then you two need to come to some sort of compromise. if he gets something like a titanium ring, they are very light and comfortable.
Post # 10
I know some people choose not to do the whole rings thing, but I am not one of them. I’ve heard of people not doing rings on here, and on TV, but that’s just not reality where I live. I’ve never known anyone who got married that didn’t wear a ring. If my Fiance said he didn’t plan on wearing a wedding ring…that’s just not OK for me LOL.
If a married couple decides they don’t want to have rings I think that’s totally fine. But eeeek, I’d never thought about if one person wanted one and the other didn’t. That’s tough. I have no idea what I would do if I were in your position, so I really don’t even know what to say here…sorry!!
Post # 11
I know a few married men that don’t wear their wedding band. I don’t think it makes you less married… but I also think that he should at least own a ring. Some of the guys I know that don’t wear their bands will put them on for “special occasions.” maybe that could be a compromise?
Post # 12
I can understand why you would be upset about this. My Fiance doesn’t wear jewelry either, but I think he is excited about getting to pick out his ring. I would definitely be hurt too if he decided he didn’t want to wear his ring unless it was purely for work reasons and only during work times (he has so many projects and such, I can understand that he wouldn’t want to wear it when working with certain materials but I would think he’d put it back on after he was done). Maybe you can talk to him a little more about why he doesn’t want to wear one? I think that just based on that he doesn’t like things on his hands – he’ll get used to that if he tries. Explain to him that it’s an outward expression of his comittment to you and the marriage and that it’s important to you that he wears it.
Post # 13
i also know of a lot of men who don’t wear rings that are married. my dad doesn’t wear his. neither does my grandpa. doesn’t make them any less married or committed. they just simply don’t like jewelry.
Post # 14
here’s some pics
Just a few ideas of the different stuff that’s out there.
Post # 15
This would definitely bother me. I’ll probably sound like a ‘zilla saying this but I would totally make him wear it.
Post # 16
That would bother me too. Hubby wasnt a big jewelry person either, but he still wears his wedding ring proudly. Maybe if you and Fiance go try some rings on, he might actually like how it looks? He doesn’t have to get diamonds or anything, and there are actually really slick looking men’s rings. Hubby really liked THIS one, but it didn’t come in his size. THIS one is similar as well. I would definitely still get him one, and if he really really really hates it, I would ask him to at least maybe wear it to get togethers and “fancy” events and such. idk, it would bother me. i know it’s silly, but it might have even been a deal breaker for me… Are you changing your last name to his? How would he feel if you didnt?