(Closed) FH got laid off and I just lost my job too…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@k8:  +1. I know there are quite a few bees that are attorneys. Get the letter and if you don’t have/know a lawyer post it on here (redact personal info) and see if someone would be willing to take a look at it.

 

File for unemployment ASAP. Can your Fiance do some side work, even if its just through ads on craigslist? I found an electrician on craigslist and had him install a light fixture for me for $100. Anything helps and these days people are looking for deals.

ETA: Ugh, I just saw your post about the laws in LA. MD is like that too 🙁 Sucks.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your boss is an a-hole. I can’t believe he let you go because his daughter quit her job and can’t find another. That is just WRONG. Be sure to file for unemployment! After you get a letter of recommendation from your boss.

 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t even WANT to work for someone as unscrupulous and unprincipled as that.  I wonder if his daughter knows that she’s the reason someone lost their job.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That sucks. The same thing happened to me. I was working part time and making 80 grand a year at a law office. My employers daughter graduated from college and couldn’t find a job. I was laid off after working for this lady for 8 years. I received unemployment. The max they pay in my state is 1900 per month. I ended up losing my house. I know how you feel. I hope that you both qualify for unemployment and are able to stay on top of your bills. At least now the banks are better about working with people that lose their jobs.hang in there!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh I am so sorry to hear this!! Sending positive thoughts your way, for both you and hubby to land your dream roles! 🙂

Post # 22
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Busy bee

@k8:  I also remember someone told me if someone gets let go, the company cannot hire within a certain amount of time. Otherwise, it’s not fair to the person who just got let go. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

This could happen to anyone. I am so sorry

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I live in an “at will” state too, & hubs and I have both been laid off before, multiple times. Panic is completely understandable, but try not to let it get the best of you. You both need to file for unemployment, and go through your budget and see what you can cut while you’re on reduced income. Hopefully unemployment will cover your basic expenses till you find new jobs, if it doesn’t then look into food stamps or utilities assistance – don’t let pride get in the way of making sure you are ok.

The good news: you have good references, your boss is going to pay you a few weeks extra, and you have a wonderful FH to help you get through this time. My hubs lost his job shortly after we married and things were really tough financially for awhile, but now we’re getting back on our feet. This experience for you & FH will not be easy, but you’ll grow closer because of it & start your marriage knowing you can handle the “for worse” times. Best of luck to you both, I’ll send a prayer up for you <3

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Scar_cats_tic:  I don’t know about that.  I only know my own personal experience of getting laid off last year!

 

My old company is still laying people off now — a guy who used to be in my dept called me last wk to ask me about whether I would talk to him about my severance deal to be sure that he was getting offered something fair.  Yikesies…

 

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@BHB0526:  my best advice is to stay unemotional.  The situation is what it is.  He’s a small business owner, he can hire his kid if he wants.  He’s dumb for telling you that’s the reason he’s letting you go which is why I say (1) lawyer up (2) negotiate a severance (3) take him up on his offer to help you find work (4) get your dissolution deal in writing (5) apply for UI & COBRA <3

Post # 26
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Busy bee

@k8:  I’m sorry to hear that…my Fiance got laid off for 2 years so I sort of know how you feel. I don’t know if it was an Illinois thing but I heard quite a few people who said that you can file a lawsuit if the company hires someone right away to fill your position because that’s grounds for discrimination. Unless you were fired for misconduct, that’s a different story.

speaking of which, you live in Chicago right? What job are you looking for? My firm is looking for  people ( marketing, civil engineers etc)

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Unemployment benefits are actually pretty good, so you should be fine as far as getting by. It won’t be comfortable, and there will likely be a lot of beans and generic food in your future, but you can make it.

My Fiance got laid off in January after we had just booked the major parts of our wedding. I put us on a diet of black beans and canned chicken with no extravagances whatsoever. It took him a little while, but he got hired on in early March making $20,000 more than what he was making before! Not only that, but a lot of those frugal habits stuck.

I will definitely pray for the two of you and send all kinds of happy thoughts your way, but it really will all work out as long as you get yourselves out there ASAP. In fact, if you’re willing to commute or relocate, you probably won’t have any trouble at all.

Post # 28
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Honey bee

@BHB0526:  holy sh*t, I’m so sorry that happened to you! I don’t know if anything can be done about this, but that definitely sounds like grounds for a wrongful firing suit. My mom went through something similar back in the day, and the company had to re-hire her. My fingers are crossed for you, and I’m sure everything will be okay, but I would definitely look into the laws on this one…and this is from a very anti-sue-happy person.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

OMG! I hate this for you. file for your benefits immediately (i.e unemployment).

Keep believing and praying and an abundance of opportunity for open for you.

 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Scar_cats_tic:  Oh I’m not looking for work I have TOO MUCH work right now!  LOL.  I work on two sustainability-related businesses based in Austin, TX (one is an upcycled furniture company, one is a real estate investment venture) & I work on a tech startup at 1871 in the Merchandise Mart.  I also pick up a lot of random event production and social media work & am taking HTML classes at Starter League.

 

Personally I love having made the transition from “company woman” to “freelancer” because it’s so much easier to manage your life when your work revolves around your lifestyle than having to fit in your lifestyle around your work.  Sometimes it’s scary because your income fluctuates a lot but personally I love the freedom of being able to choose my projects. 

Post # 31
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Busy bee

@k8:  oh wait, wasn’t there a tech startup event at Merch Mart a couple years ago that was almost the same time as Canstruction?

i wasn’t on the team, but couple of my coworkers were building late at night, and told me a couple people invited to the event lol

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