(Closed) FH Homeless A Day Before Christmas (Long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You really need to get the police involved as this is assault with a deadly weapon, even if it means returning to the scene with the police in hand. I would also suggest getting a restraining order. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, and I hope y’all are able to still have a good Christmas! 

Post # 4
4933 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Police, lawyer, restraining order. Can you contact the rental agency?

Post # 5
1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

My parents are landlords and you can’t just evict someone even if they don’t pay their rent on time or pull a knife on them! Yeah go to the police and tell him to get a lawyer!

Post # 6
1176 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is bizarre. I’m confused as to why your Fiance and you moved all his stuff out. Why didn’t you return to the apartment and file a police report? Have the landlord arrested? Why did your Fi decide to become homeless instead of dealing with the landlord? Or why didn’t you change the locks on the apartment?

And why is the landlord so angry? Why is he making these threats? Is he just crazy?

Are you going to charge him for the vet bill for your cat? People can’t go around throwing pets against walls! You need to do something about this guy. I don’t understand why you haven’t filed a police report?

Does he have a lease or rental agreement? I don’t think you can just walk away from a rental contract, even if the landlord threatens you. Could the landlord take you to court for breaking contract? That would be ridiculous and awful but if I were your Fiance I’d certainly make sure I was in the clear.

I’m really curious to hear from any legal bees about this.

If I were in your shoes I think I’d wait until after Christmas, and then start calling lawyers. Maybe move back into the apartment.

As for how to make the holiday special, can you afford a hotel on Christmas night? At least that way you could share a bed. If not, all I can think is to make his favourite food and promise to help him sort out this crazy situation.

Good luck!

ETA I just reread your post and saw that you are going to contact lawyers. Good! I hope you are compensated.

Post # 7
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

How did he ever dealk with such a lunatic as a landlord? This sounds awful. Glad to hear your cat’s ok.

Post # 9
721 posts
Busy bee

Something’s not adding up here.  There is 100% no excuse for anyone to swing knives around no matter what the reason.  But just for clarification, what do you mean by money promised?  What money does he owe the landlord, or is he just being generous and helping him out?  Also why was the landlord hanging out by your FI’s apartment late at night (most go home after business hours and I’ve certainly never seen my landlord just hanging out by my apartment any time of day or night)?  Maybe I misread something but I’m very confused by this post.

Post # 10
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Go to your local police station and file a complaint there.


ETA: When you get in touch in your lawyers (after Christmas?) they will ask about a police report, if there is none, it will look bad in civil court. Criminal proceedings should be taken against this man and you should get the ball rolling as soon as possible. 

Post # 11
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would have called the police and waited for them in my car at a safe distance.  Somewhere where we could see them pulling up so we could then meet up with them.  They should have handled it last night to see how intoxicated this man was.

Post # 12
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Tibbs:  +1. It may be difficult to get a restraining order without any police report. You need to file one as soon as possible.

Post # 13
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yeah the police definately need to be involved. Otherwise what proof will you have at court? Just be with him during Christmas, it’s the most you can do. But after the holidays I’d find a lawyer.  Most importantly he can’t make threats like that. Secondly he can’t evict your FH like that. You need to go to the court house ASAP and file a restraining order against this guy, especially if you’re worried about him continuing to be a threat.

Restraining orders don’t necessarily need a police report. What is done is done with you not filing a police report but you need to take action from here. This landlord is a nut and needs to be dealt with legally

Post # 14
4933 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@dragonlover:  Well then. All you can do is file charges I guess. 

Post # 15
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Take the legal road. Does he own the property, or just manage it? If he’s just the manager, contact the property owner and tell him you’re filing legal charges.

Why would the landlord still be out to jump your FH? Did he pay his latest rent? Is there anything else involved in their relationship (extra loans, drugs…?) Something just seems odd. 

I’m a bit surrised that your family, after hearing this same story, won’t allow your future HUSBAND to stay longer than a few days. And what about his family? Can’t he stay there? That will eliminate rental costs and help you to save for the wedding.

And Christmas, just enjoy the holiday together. My FH and I don’t even exchage gifts…and if you’re on a tight budget (even tighter now), do something that’s stess-free. Perhaps Chinese and a nice christmas stroll with coffee/hot coaco!  

Things do work out, just ride out the storm.

Post # 16
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@dragonlover:  go to the police if you haven’t obviously. While you can’t evict someone like that I’m sure your Fiance doesn’t want to go back there, nor do I blame them.  It’s kind of messed up that given the situation your parents won’t let him stay for more than a few days. 

The topic ‘FH Homeless A Day Before Christmas (Long)’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors