(Closed) FH is happy to get married, but unenthusiastic about wedding

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

my fi read the book groomology and liked it. that might help.

a lot of men don’t care about the wedding or the details, but you should reinforce how much fun the day will be. talk to married couples about their weddings, or focus on the really exciting things you’ve booked (a great band? great food? etc.)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

What will make the wedding fun for him?  Certain food from his favorite restaurant? What does he love? Does he have hobbies?  Just remind him that this day is about sharing your day with the people you love and it should be fun.  What does he like to do for fun?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

LOL no worries. Well, I think you’ve done a good job at trying to get him included.  It might be awkward for him, but it’s like a super-duper date night, so he should just try to relax and have fun.  I don’t like being ceneter of attention either, so that will be difficult, but I’m so excited to say those vows and exchange those rings so I could care less.  Sometimes, in relationships, we have to compromise – and that’s what your wedding is, a compromise – you get your celebration/classic wedding and he gets to marry you and have a nice honeymoon.  Right? 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t really think you can. Let him have a say with what he likes, if he doesn’t like it leave him out of the planning for that topic. It’s unlikely he’ll give 2 hoots about centerpeices so don’t ask him. Things like that.

I guess it won’t get him excited but might minimize him being such a downer.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

oh dear… I feel the same way as you do sometimes (and df also seems to feel a similar way as yours).  Mine is a total smart aleck about it, so he doesn’t see the point in anything that I am doing.  Case in point… @kitzy: I did buy him that (or a similar) book some time ago but he made me return it because it was pointless and he wasn’t going to read it!!!  Sometimes I just have to shut him up and just tell him to do it for me!!

I know he feels the same way, like “the wedding is for the bride”… sometimes you just have to go with it and tell him that doing whatever you want to do will make you happy and isn’t that what you want in the end?  Honestly, I think it will be hard to change their views on weddings!  Yes, and minimize his involvement if you think he really doesn’t care.

The problem is when yoru Dear Fiance says they don’t care… but you mention some choice you’re going to make and they suddenly do care… and it’s in the opposite opinion as to what you were planning!  yup, personal experience.  I have to let some things go obviously, I will take all his caring that I can get.

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