(Closed) FH just saw my wedding dress. and he hates it..

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

From what I understand, he doesn’t like it, you don’t really like it (although it does need to be altered).  If you have enough time why don’t you sell it and start over?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You know, I didn’t love my wedding dress, and I figured it wasn’t that important.  But you know what, I still regret it and wish I had a different dress!  I actually liked mine less after it was altered, too, because it ended up fitting me too loosely.  Is there any possible way to sell the dress and use the money you make from it to get a new one?  What is it about your dress that you don’t like?  Do you have others in mind that you like better?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think it looks beautiful!  I really like the way it gathers at the flower, the folds are just right.  I would keep in mind his vision of you in your wedding dress, because he’s a boy, is going to be of the complete package: hair, make up, huge nervous smile, VEIL (THAT is what made me feel like a true BRIDE!).  It’s probably hard for him to make that projection seeing just the “rough draft”.  Of course, if you were already unhappy with it, then maybe you should consider other options.  I’m not a believer in the “perfect” dress, but you should love the one you end up with.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that dress is beautiful and beautiful on you and with alterations it would be evan more beautiful but this is your decision and you should do what you think is best. If a new dress is in your budget then get a new dress.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

I agree; talk to your Fiance about it.

Can I ask, was this dress right in the price range you had in mind? Less? More? Selling can kind of be a crap shoot from what I’ve heard, at least here in America. How is it in Australia?

Also, where does and doesn’t it fit? Is it just the bust that needs adjusting? Or the waist as well? It looks good, but IMO not AMAZING (I’m sorry if that’s too honest) on you – it looks like you have curves under there that are getting lost in all the boning and beads.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@ ccrane – I had many, many dress doubts before mine was altered.  For months before it came in, I would look at pictures of me in the sample dress and second-guess my decision to order it.  But, once it came in and I put it on in my size it made a world of difference, which only got better as the alterations were completed and it fit be better and better…  I honestly think that it’s a lovely dress that just some alterations.  I agree that the bust/neckline needs to be altered so that it fits your properly.  I’m not sure what you mean by “collar thingy”, but if it’s a halter top I was actually going to suggest that as a possible alteration.  I think it would beautiful!

 

Post # 12
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342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Crane – I think it is a lovely dress, but I can see how your Fiance thinks it isn’t flattering your figure as well as it could.  You’ve got a lovely tiny waist, but that flower and those folds are drawing the eye downward to your hips, which are making you look a bit wider.  Is there any way you could move the flower up to hit more at the natural waist, and possible cut the neckline down? 

I think that with having the emphasis at your small waist and having more of a sweetheart neckline it would really place up your figure!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You are handling it better than I would be. I would have flipped out on him! Honesty is definitely better than lying, but knowing when to keep one’s mouth shut ranks higher, in my opinion. I would absolutely cry if Fiance were to not like my dress because I do feel like I am getting dressed for him on that day. I would have to find a new dress even if it meant taking money out of other budget areas or starting to save for a dress all over again. I couldn’t wear it because on the day, even though I should be excited and forget it, I know that as I’m walking down the aisle, that comment would be in my mind. So for what it’s worth, your dress is beautiful and I do think it looks nice on you, but I personally could not salvage the emotion for me. That’s why I don’t want my Fiance to see it till the day because then I know he will be so caught up in everything that even if he doens’t like it, he wouldn’t say it!

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think once its altered it will look really great, the color goes great with your skin tone.  I bought a dress and then got a different one, and hubs just saw the first one and was like “eeewwww”.  H was really glad that I ended up picking the second dress!

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

The first dress was just my in case dress, I only spent $400 some dollars on it, the second dress was what I really wanted in the first place and ended up finding just a couple months before the wedding

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