Post # 1
He got a nice severance package, but I’m still concerned. I earn a little more than half of what he did, so I hope he finds something soon because we definitely can’t live on my salary (i.e. after paying the mortgage, we would have about $300 to live on for the month). Thankfully, my parents are paying for the wedding, so that is one expense we don’t have to worry about.
I’m trying to keep a positive attitude, especially at home because I don’t want him to feel worse than he already does, but I just needed to share.
Post # 3
Big hugs. I’m so sorry your FH lost his job. But hopefully he’ll find something even better!
Post # 4
I know exactly how tough it is to lose your job as I lost mine as well a few months back. The good news is that now is a great time to be unemployed if you get laid off because at least the government is providing so much aid. I am sure you guys will work it out in the end. Stay strong!
Post # 5
thats such a hard thing to go through. but keep your head up, that which does not kill us makes us Superman lol
Post # 6
My SO and I lived for a year and a half off of my salary, and his unemployment. (He wasn’t totally looking for a job- he decided to go back to school,) You can make it work- even if it isn’t for the long term, cutting some corners will help you feel safer.
We don’t have cable- we watch shows via hulu and rent movies from the library or use the $1 movie rentals.
We don’t eat out as much- or if we do- somewhere fancy is a seriously special occasion.
We live in a city- so we took advantage of all the free festivals/movies in the park/or just biking and hiking for entertainment.
We use the park district gym- waaaay cheaper.
We shop at Aldi for staples like milk, flour, sugar, etc. You’d be surprised. We shop at Trader Joes., (don’t know if you have one in Madison) for the “high end” (note the sarcasam,) items like butter, wine, frozen goods.
It also helped us become very honest with our money, and stronger as a couple. We made some sacrafices for his education and I’m okay with that. You may not be half-employed for the long term, but we find the corners we cut are still corners we will keep cutting now that he is employed. We can save that money now for the wedding, a house, etc. Good luck!
Post # 7
I totally understand what you are going thru, and I’m so sorry.
My husband lost his job 2 years ago, so he decided to go back to school. Not long after my salary was reduced due to the economy. In 6 months, we had to cut 1100 dollars from our budget. Ouch.
But we did it. We figured what we could cut back on, started shopping smarter, and stopped buying what we wanted, and only got what we needed. We are doing okay, and you will too.
Post # 8
So sorry to hear that. My FH lost his job 2 days ago actually, so I can definitely relate. I am the main money maker in the household but we can’t live long on my income without making serious cuts and dipping into savings. Plus we are paying for most of our wedding on our own. I keep reminding myself that everything happens for a reason and we are strong and can get through anything together. Good luck to you!!!
Post # 9
Oh no, so sorry to hear that! Stay positive and stay active in his seach and he’ll find something!
Post # 10
Thanks ladies, you’re encouragement is really helping. We are trying to view this as an opportunity for him to switch to something that allows a little more work-life balance.
@sulaii211 – I think groceries will be the first item that we look at since it’s the easiest to make adjustments. And we do have a Trader Joe’s, so I’ll check that out. Thanks for the tip!
I guess on the plus side, while I’m at work today he’s cleaning the house and washing all our garbage cans (those things get so nasty!). The job search starts in full swing on Monday.
Post # 11
I’m very sorry, it’s good that you’re being positive about this.
Post # 12
I’m sorry to hear that. I think the best thing you can both do is remain positive. I know, easier said than done. At least he’s got you, that probably makes the experience so much easier. I hope he finds something better and I hope he finds it soon 🙂
Post # 13
I agree with some of the other posts here. When I lost my job 2 years ago my boyfriend was in school full-time and wasn’t working. His previous employer was more than willing to take him back so we were living off his paycheck, which was considerably less than what I was making, and my unemployment checks. We were also both going to school full-time. I think that experience made us stronger as a couple because it forced us to become creative with finances, cooking, and entertainment. We cut down on the following: eliminated our land line and cable TV/internet subscription, stopped renting movies or going to movie theaters, limited eating out to date night, and became more sensible with grocery shopping. Instead we used our cell phones to communicate, used the school library for internet, borrowed movies from the library, read a lot more, learned to cook and considered a Costco run as entertainment. Now that we have both finished school and are both employed I don’t miss any of the stuff we cut. We are still living without cable TV and very rarely rent movies. Our internet is back (but I work from home so it’s a business expense) so we watch movies or TV shows online. We still consider Costco as entertainment and when we do eat out, we make sure it’s at a place I haven’t reviewed on Yelp.
The best thing about my unemployment was that without TV, movies, or internet to distract us, we actually spent more time together and that is always fun!
Keep your head up!