(Closed) FH May Have Lost His Job – To Postpone Wedding Or Not? (LONG)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

If your wedding is May of next year, and you are able to come up with the balance before then, then I also see no reason why you should wait. By then, your Fiance may have found another job.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d sit down with all yoru budgets and find out if ysou can still afford to $2k between now and May. I don’t really see any reason to postpone, and you will probably lose deposits if you cancel now. Hopefully FH can find some job soon. Good luck to you!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think you need to decide that now, but if 4 months from now he hasn’t found another job and in turn has a lot of debt from unpaid bills then maybe. But just based on right now I would not postpone, my major concern would be paying the bills though and not the $2,000 for the weddding (which is awesome that that is all you have to pay and your wedding is 9 months out) 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

2k is left? I definitely wouldn’t postpone. That would be a massive waste of money and you wouldn’t be able to get those deposits back. Have you thought about asking your parents or his parents for a small loan? 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s going to have to be between you, your parents, and your Fiance about postponing the wedding.

As for your Fiance – just a word of advice. Calling HR twice about a paycheck the day after he was suspended while they investigate him for stealing $1,000 is a BAD idea. It makes him look desperate for money, and if I were the HR person investigating the claim, I would be very suspicious. Maybe give them a week to get their payroll sorted out before he calls once to inquire about his backpay would be a little more palatable….

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

So sorry you’re going through this. I just got fired yesterday after being pushed into a supervisor’s position that  I wasn’t qualified for.

Your fiance should apply for unemployment. He should have no trouble getting it, IMO. If he does, see if any law schools in your area will fight on his behalf. We have a local law school that provides this service at no charge.

Wait a couple of months (maybe til the end of the year) to see what changes — if he gets a new job, unemployment, etc. and go from there. It sucks to wait, but there IS a chance he will get either unemployment benefits OR a new job altogether so you may not have to cancel or postpone anything.

I am in the same boat as you, although my wedding is a full year away. Still freaked out though. I owe at least $3000 and I still haven’t booked a lot of things or bought ANY decor. Sigh. Frown

Good luck. Let us know what happens. Hopefully your fiance and I both find that this is a blessing in disguise. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Even though HR hasn’t given him any specifics on how he will be contacted, I think you guys need to take a step back and wait for the full two weeks before you do anything rash.  There is an investigation and he was suspended, but you can’t know for sure that it means he has been let go.  In the meantime, live frugally and have your husband look around for other job openings, but don’t apply for unemployment until the full 2 weeks is up and you can do/receive follow up.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

@elysion:  Great advice. Its really too soon to know anything.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t think you should Postpind the wedding. Hopefully your future husband will find a new job soon best of luck to both of you 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

@bklynbridetobe:  so what happened? I’m on pins and needles here!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

@Quickiebee:  LOL I think you mentioned me by accident. And this is a very old thread.

@elysion:  She wants an update.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

@dragonlover:  hey OP do you have an update on your situation?? Inquiring bees would like to know!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

@bklynbridetobe:  agk, sorry! You guys had the same avatar! Hehe.  Well, I hope the op fills us in… Sometimes I read these threads like novels and it turns into mystery for me when there is no conclusion!!! 

 

@elysion:  thanks for sending that along!

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