(Closed) FH not thrilled about engagement photos…

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My FH was happy to take engagement pictures luckily!!

I don’t think there are a great number of men that are excited to have their pictures taken, but engagement photos are something that you want to do (and kind of have to if you want to use it for an invite). He loves you, and he will do it, and when the day comes you might be surprised at how much he opens up.

Maybe ask him what his ideas for a fun engagement picture would be? Maybe having his input will help him loosen up a bit.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My FH was totally not excited about them either. It was like forcing a child to go to the denist. But once we got there it was fun! He enjoyed himself and he is totally happy with our pictures/ photographer. I just would try to make FH laugh to lighten the mood. I’m sure your pictures will turn out GREAT!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My FH didn’t really understand why we were doing it but once we got going he had a great time and loves the pictures.  It was a great way to make sure we love our photographer!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe incorporate a shot that he would really love. Like, my Fiance is really dorky, so I agreed to do a lightsaber fight picture if he promised to behave for the more formal ones.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

my husband hates having pictures taken, especially for a long period of time…  AND it was 90 some odd degrees out when we took ours… outside in jeans and long shirts… YEA, he was not a happy camper… I got him on board by sweetening the deal, I told him that I would go out with him after (he owns a bar so he goes to the bar quite a bit and I dont like to drink often) and have a few drinks if he did this… I may have thrown in a sexual favor or two when he was getting really unhappy in the heat to make sure he stayed happy. πŸ˜‰

Our e-pics came out great though…

Don’t get me wrong… we got a few sourpuss faces: (talk about grin and bear it… lol)

But the majority of our pictures came out great! πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My Fiance was not at all excited about engagement pics either, but once he got to know the photographer and used to it he was comfortable and had fun.

What are his concerns? Fiance didn’t want to look “dumb” (I think he meant corny) so we stayed away from the overdone and photos. Just ask him to have an open mind and tell him it’s okay to stop for a bit if he’s uncomfortable.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

bahaha my Fiance hates pictures. So I scheduled our e-pics to be taken on my birthday so he had to comply. They turned out great, so I say don’t worry about it. They’re great practice for the wedding and you can always get them re-done IMO πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@moniquaa:  I love that I changed clothes, it gave each set of pictures a different feel and I feel like I got a lot more variety even if some of the “poses” are similar.  Apparently the hubs and I are quite awkward in pictures, we had to be directed quite a bit… lol

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

A good percentage of the guys we work with could care less about the photography for the wedding.  They will care however if they don’t look good!  Best advice to you, the engagement photos that look best in our opinion are ones with our couples interacting with one another and enjoying their company.  He’ll probably get weirded out if he has to look into the camera directly too much, let him know that it’s okay to interact and be looking at you.  Be super affectionate to him and stock up on lame jokes.  Engagement shoots ARE awkward, but it can be a good kind of awkward if you embrace it.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Fi wasn’t thrilled we were taking engagement pics either. We did “formal” ones first and most of those ones look pretty stiff and forced. But when we changed and went out to the field, he relaxed. Some of my favorite ones are when we were just goofing off. And if that doesn’t work, tickle him. That’s how i got my favorite smile out of the whole set.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Yes, my Fiance wasn’t thrilled about the engagement pictures either.  I think it really stemmed from not wanting to be the center of attention, and not really knowing what to expect.  I’d go with the bribery aspect that a fellow bee mentioned πŸ™‚  Also, if you picked photographers that are fun, it should go smoother once you get started.  That was my experience anyways.  Maybe if he’s really nervous you could ask the photographer(s) to meet you for a coffee or a drink before the session and chat to get him more comfortable/relaxed.

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