- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Sorry if this is long, neet to vent!
My fiance walked out of his job yesterday. Last year he got 4 paycuts, so we were barely making it anyway. He hated his boss and everyone that worked there. He has changed so drastically since he started working there, he has become so miserable. He has been looking for another job for a while and he is in the middle of applying to be a Corrections Office in the prison in our town. The process started in Feb, he passed the written test, and they are in the middle of doing a background check now and contacting all his family and friends. Once he passes that, he has to wait until the next academy and then his job will start. That could take many more months, depending on how long they take with the background check and when the next academy is.
I got home yesterday and he was home from work early, so I asked what happened and he said he couldnt take it anymore and he just walked out. I tried to stay calm and collected but he seemed so ok with it. WE HAVE A MORTGAGE and so many bills. We dont have anyone to fall back on, its just us. Walking out is the most selfish, childish thing you can do when your an adult with bills and responsibilities. I have bad days at my job too, everyone does, its life. You learn to deal and keep going until you find something better..
Our wedding is a lil over 9 months away, we still have 6k to save. He asked me why I was so mad/upset, I explained that we have bills and a mortgage and we can afford to not have an income on his part. My income wont pay all the bills and I am putting myself through school and tryign to save for a wedding. The very mention of the word weddign and he blew a gasket. He flipped and said all I care about is MY STUPID WEDDING and I dont care about him or his mental health. I dont care that he hated going to work everyday and he came home miserable. All I care about is my wedding.
Well considering the fact that we signed a contract and have already made deposits, bought a dress and sent out save the dates, its kind of a bid deal that he has no job. Our family isnt helping with our wedding nor will or can they help with our bills. I am so angry.
I understand he hated his job and I tried to be as supportive as I possibly could. I take care of everything, the house, bills, food, laundry, cleaning, cooking, and even went to school full time at night after work and still came home to cook, clean and do homework.. All he had to do was work and come home. I did that so he didnt have to worry about anything, he could relax when he got home from work and try to unwind from his job. And he had the nerve to say I dont support him. I cant be supportive of someone who just walks out of the only income he has when we have a mortgage to pay.
Am i being irrational or would you be freaking out too?