(Closed) FH selling house vs me getting a new job? Help!

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Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

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rvrmtn10 :  I’m frugal and practical. It sounds to me like moving to his house might be the better option. When is the wedding?

Post # 3
489 posts
Helper bee

Is renting in the central part of town an option? How far would your commute be if you moved to his side and kept driving? 

I would say, if you get a new job, I wouldn’t worry so much about wedding planning being a huge hassle or reason not to switch, if you really want to switch. While there are lots of details, you can manage to plan a wedding and a new job pretty reasonably.

If you plan to buy a dream home in the near future, then definite look to rent and not buy. You don’t want to get stuck with a home after a few years if the market drops. Also, if your FH is looking to move jobs soon and you are fine staying at your job, prioritize where he will likely be. You might just need to wait to move in together or just accept communting for a short period of time.

Post # 4
4798 posts
Honey bee

If whatever you are going to buy now isn’t going to be your “forever” house and the plan is to do that in five years, then I really don’t see how it makes sense to sell his house, pay to move, and purchase a more expensive home near you when a year from now you don’t even know where you’ll be working, unless the housing market in your area is really favorable to you and you’ll be able to resell it for more in five years.

If you can find rent in the middle near his work that is cheaper than a mortgage, then maybe that.  Otherwise, it seems to make more financial sense for you to suck it up for a long commute temporarily and possibly job hunt.  How big is this city?  I mean, I live in a small to medium city, but our entire metro area is HUGE and people commute across it all the time.  I have coworkers who commute 55+ miles one way every day.  A few who do 30-40 miles one way.

Post # 5
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Why not be on the lookout for a job and check online for houses and see what’s out there? Both homebuying and job hunting are big time commitments. How is the market for both? Do you foresee any trouble finding a job?

With as many factors as you mention, keeping the house may be the best. Sounds like you could be flexible financially and save more there. Selling a house will forfeit a chunk to fees, costs, inspections, who knows. Might as well wait and do that when you have your dream house in view.

Post # 6
237 posts
Helper bee

How far would the drive be from his house to your current job? Could it be possible to temporarily commute from his house for awhile so you can wait until after your wedding to look for a new job? I wouldn’t want to start a new job while planning a wedding. Aside from the obvious money stress, it could be hard to get time off for the wedding and honeymoon so soon after starting. 

If that is not an option though, I would say that if you are planning to move to your forever home in 5 years or so, I would figure out which option would be the best financially and go with that so you can save for awhile. 

Post # 9
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

That is a long commute. I have bosses who do it ever day and think they are crazy. I did it for a month for a.temp to perm.type job and hated it enough to refuse the job offer after my month long assignment was over. Maybe your work offers some sort of telecommuting for a gew days a week?

Post # 10
3885 posts
Honey bee

Don’t buy a house if you think you’ll be moving in a year or two. Even if the market stays stable, you will lose money.

Post # 11
1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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katebluestone :  hmmm depends on where you live though. My city is going through a huge spurt. I have friends who were in their home for 6 months and decided to sell due to an overseas job offer, they made just over 150k profit. 

My husband and I are expecting our first baby soon and have been our home 6 months. We plan on being here until we have a second child. In this 6 months oyr value has jumped 60k. 

Also, OP, I moved house the weekend before my wedding and my husband was away on business. I packed up our entire house in under 3 weeks alone while working 9-5 and trying to finalise wedding and honeymoon plans. We then relocated to a new city two weeks after getting back from honeymoon.

I’m trying to say you can do anything you put your mind to 

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