(Closed) FH shot down one of my most looked forward things…

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Is there a way to do it with something cheaper? My Fiance will have no clue what kind of shoes I’m wearing!!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Woah, I had no idea they were that expensive. What if you glitter them instead?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The only RED FLAG is you. $400 on crystals, and then you have to put them on and they might turn out crappy even then. You can get a kickass pair of designer shoes for less. You’re about to get married, so you need to be able to budget with him. Not liking your dress is a separate issue. 

Sit down and discuss your shoe budget. If you want it bigger, take money from other parts of the budget in areas he agrees to- like programs. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Any way you could just raise the extra money on your own? Then it’d be an expense out of your own pocket instead of your (I assume?) joint finances.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

what color do you want to do? I’m sure you find a cheaper pair of sparkly shoes! $400 on crystals is a lot – plus all the labor!  You could buy a nice pair of designer shoes for that much!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well, on the up side – you never knew they were going to work out to be great, right? So if the crystals are actually that much, I would just buy myself a nice pair that doesn’t need all that work and focus my efforts on something else.

 

I understand that you’re disappointed now, but could you perhaps find another DIY project that you could get excited about – to take your mind of the shoes.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@hiroshymatetrastar:  How about strassed flats? Cheaper (fewer crystals) and more comfortable. I’m sure there’s going to be a height difference, but some Bees say it’s not a big deal.

Also, how about just strassing the heel and/or platform (if there is one)?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  If it were me, I’d rather have the square envelopes you cut from your budget than the shoes. Try to keep it in perspective. Hardly anyone will see the shoes. Look for some glittery ones or maybe you can even find some used!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I completely forgot you had these shoes! I would go back to these and glitter the part your cobbler added, the way people are now doing glittered soles.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d negotiate if it’s really important to you. My Darling Husband thinks plenty of my expenses are “stupid” but we’re both allowed to spend some fun money at our own discretion. Can part of the expense be your valentines present or your birthday present? Or can you give something up and allocate the money toward crystals instead?

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