(Closed) FH shot down one of my most looked forward things…

posted 7 years ago in Shoes
Post # 47
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Sounds like you’re pretty dead set on the shoes the way you want them since you’re shooting down everyone’s suggestions. The only suggestion I have is to find a non branded crystal that is close to swarovski quality. The $40 ones might not cut it. But for your sake I hope so.

Post # 49
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6239 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@hiroshymatetrastar:  so then was is those shoes you were planning on wearing?? Or were you going to use a different pair to strass?

Post # 50
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9130 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Holy crap that’s a lot of money.  But if it’s what you really really want, you can (if you can afford it) tell him that he gets $400 for something he really wants, too.  (Wedding or un-wedding related.)  If you each save $50/month, he could have his $400 by your wedding too.

Post # 51
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Canal St Inn

@hiroshymatetrastar:  That might be so, but if you explain the situation to her, she might understand and at least help with expenses. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. I really don’t know what else to suggest that doesn’t involve some sort of compromise. I hope you’re able to work it out.

Post # 52
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3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  “Mom is paying for the DJ… Dad the photographer…”

That’s really nice of them to do, is this a recent development? I guess what I’m trying to say is that $400 for shoes is a LOT. I have a fairly high budget wedding, and my shoes were under $100. I just think you need to make a list of your priorities and go from there. If your wedding shoes come out on top of the honeymoon, then go for the shoes.

 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@cmbr:  Exactly this. 

And OP, with the medical condition that you mentioned, you should be focusing on finding a pair of shoes that will be functional and comfortable for the whole wedding. I’d hate for you to spend $400 and however many hours on the crystals and shoes only to be in pain after 90 minutes. Unless you spend a lot of time in heels, those shoes you posted will be a lot to handle.

Post # 54
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2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cmbr:  +1. My wedding is neither high nor low budget and I only spent $40 on my shoes. They’re glittery, have a decent heel and platform, they go on my feet for me to be tall, no one will see them, and they didn’t cost a fortune.

Post # 55
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cmbr:  Plus one!

@hiroshymatetrastar:  OP, a lot of your threads lately have been about money and needing to cut back – $400 for shoes would be one of the first places I would cut back. Also, what happens if the shoes don’t turn out the way you want after all that time and money and neither do the pictures? I was really looking forward to my shoe pictures too and those were some of the only pictures did not turn out well. I understand wanting to feel pretty on your wedding day, but I think you should look at your budget priorities and what you both want.

Post # 56
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6239 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I almost feel like it would be more worth it for you to take the $400 over to a custom shoe site and work with them to make a pari of shoes that look the same with different heel heights. 

Post # 57
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2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

its all about priorities…..even those with huge budgets might feel that a few hundred on shoes is a bit crazy. but if this is really all you care about go for it…just realize that if it means no honeymoon or invites or whatever and that affects fh he has a right to be pissed and personally I wouldnt want to fight over somwthing like blinged out shoe diy that might end up a giant mess

Post # 58
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1109 posts
Bumble bee

sounds like you’ve already made up your mind. Its your time and your $400. Your fiance might complain but if you’ve exhausted all alternatives (which it sounds like you did) and you’re going to wear them again, then it’s an investment for your wardrobe and you should do what makes you happy. It’s pretty close to your wedding, so you should alleviate your stresses by just doing what makes sense to you. 

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