(Closed) FH shot down one of my most looked forward things…

posted 7 years ago in Shoes
Post # 62
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  One thought if you find almost the perfect shoe (but without a strap) is to have a cobbler add a strap and then add crystals to the strap to help it blend. I know you’re a bit soured on the cobbler right now, but I also have to have straps added to my shoes because of a medical condition and I have found they tend to look pretty good.

Post # 63
3051 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@hiroshymatetrastar:  would adding a strap somehow on a pair of already bling-y shoes be cheaper than blinging out the shoes that have a strap? I know nothing about changing shoes, I just buy ones that I like from the get-go lol but maybe that could work?

Post # 64
3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@hiroshymatetrastar:  It sounds like the only reason he said no was because he doesn’t agree with the cost.  This is your wedding too, and as long as you’re contributing money to it, you can spend part of that money on things you want.  Do I approve of the $200+ my fiance just spent on a traveling chess set?  No.  But he has a full-time job, so he has a right to spend some money on himself.  You should agree on big ticket items and things that will really affect both of you.  But if you want sparkly shoes for your wedding day, go buy some sparkly shoes!

Post # 65
14967 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@hiroshymatetrastar:  Just get what you want!   If it’s in the budget and you have the money for it, who cares if he thinks it’s stupid.  It seems like you really truely want it and nothing else will do, so why settle?  My husband thinks it’s stupid that I spent over $1000 on a handbag, and yeah, I agree, it’s pretty crazy ridiculous amount, but I wanted it and could afford it.  So he can tell me it’s ugly and stupid everytime he sees it, I dont care, I love it and we’re not hurting for the money that I spent on it.  I say go for it !  And post picture here when youre done.  I LOVE pics of strassed shoes!  And that purple?  Best color ever.

Post # 68
7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@cmbr:  100% I agree. Especially if you have been recently complaining about money, then even more so that you I agree with you FH.

Post # 69
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

instead of putting the crystals girdle to girdle you can space them out like weddingbound did, and create patterns? and mix cheaper glass ones with the swarovsky ones, that should slash your expense.

on the bright side i was in a bead store beside my work and i was comparing swarovsky elements to glass generic ones and there is hardly a difference. i wound’t get plastic ones though, only for the blacks/opaque colours maybe because plastic isnt as trasparent

Post # 70
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it’s fine to want to strass your own shoes, but I think it’s silly to spend $400 on it. Especially since some parts of the shoes will seldom, if ever, be seen (actually, your shoes in sum will rarely be seen as long as your dress is long enough). Many brdes in the Regrets post said they regretted getting expensive shoes, because aside from one or two photos, no one saw them.

Why don’t you get the nice crystals, but only get some of them, and fill them in with the cheaper ones? No one is going to see the crystals on very bottom, or the inside where the arch is. They’re pretty much going to see the ones on the top of the toes, and the ones on the heel. You probably wouldn’t be able to tell the difference if you used only half fancy crystals, as long as you didn’t completely cheap out on the non-fancy ones. You might be able to go as far as four to one, since the light will be attracted to the nicer crystals and they will shine enough for the others. There is a law of diminishing returns with blinginess.

Post # 72
1853 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  Well then, as someone who needed chiavari chairs, I say work it into your budget and go for it.

We spend $300 more on chairs then we “needed” to, but I really needed those chairs and we found a way around it in our budget!

Post # 73
10019 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hiroshymatetrastar:   If you feel this  strongly about it, talk with your Fiance again and tell him this is extremely important to you, you’ll pay for it out of your tax refund, and hope he understands.  Even if he doesn’t understand, well, he’ll get over it eventually, lol.

Post # 74
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

preciosa crystals are slightly cheaper. http://www.dreamtimecreations.com/category/1442/preciosa-flat-back-rhinestones/flat-back-round-rhinestones/preciosa-viva12-flatback-rhinestones/?filter=1&color_base_code=violet&color=Heliotrope&finish=&font=&height=&hole=&rowrange=&shank=&shape=&size=&type=&width=&strand=&material=&view=&by=&bulk=0&company_id2=0&articleno=

$400 is a lot. however, if it’s something you TRULY have to have? bite the bullet and find it in the budget. or sell things you don’t need on ebay/craigslist.

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