(Closed) FH shot down one of my most looked forward things…

posted 7 years ago in Shoes
Post # 107
2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  $400 is a lot for crystals to DIY. I would be so afraid to mess that up. Your wedding is +3 months away. Take that $400 and look at some stunning sample dresses and get a dress you know you will love. I would 100% go barefoot (or wear second hand shoes) to my wedding if it meant I would have a dress I couldnt wait to wear. Hardly anybody sees the shoes…and sure they are going to be in the detail photos…. but your dress is in every photo. What I’m telling you now is what another bee told me in November and it completely changed how I felt once I got a new dress.

Post # 109
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I used to make pagaeant dresses and we bought all our crystals whole sale. I can’t remember the seller off the top of my head but I can look it it up for you and let you know… No way you need to spend 400 on crystals!

Post # 110
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I have to agree that the only red flag here is you, sweetie… I think he’s being prudent.

And you can have a pair of shoes custom made for less than you paid for crystals.

Post # 111
9544 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Warning – I haven’t read all the posts!

I’m glad to hear it sounds like you’re coming around to some cheaper options. I definately think you can get good sparkle without the Swarovski name and price tag. 

Also, I have several patients who have leg length discrepancies so i can understand your frustration. And I’m sure you have a good relationship with your cobbler so maybe I’m talking crazy – but have you tried cutting off the heel on the longer leg rather than adding to the shorter leg? I know a girl that has done that on dozens of shoes.

Post # 113
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Wow, I had NO idea DIY-strass cost that much. Looking at what’s available on eBay, you could get a pair of glitter Choos or Loubs for that price. But, I realise that’s beside the point given that you’re enamoured of one specific vision for your wedding shoes.

Honestly, if it was that important to me, I would stand my ground. If it’s not going to break your budget or send you broke, then I would try to explain to Fiance that this is the ONE thing that’s very important to you on your wedding day. 

My only concern is the success rate of DIY strassing…it would be awful if you spent all this money (and effort, and emotional turmoil) for it not to work out. 

Post # 115
802 posts
Busy bee

Are you 100% set on doing the strassing yourself? I do feel like it is a little much to be spending $400 just on crystals to DIY your shoes, not to mention extremely time consuming with your wedding just over 3 months away. It seems like you’ve already spent the money to DIY a practice pair of shoes, so perhaps satisfy your DIY urge with that pair, and use the $400 to have them “professionally” strassed.

Etsy has several shops that will custom strass your shoes for you. I didn’t go through all of them, and several of them probably have lower prices than the link I’m providing, but I noticed that this one likely has the purple velvet AB Swarovski crystals you wanted and her pricing starts @ $360


She also has a cheaper European crystal that apparently also comes in the same color, purple velvet AB, that starts @ $260


Post # 116
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

I think feeling like a princess on that day is a completely legit thing to aim for 🙂

I do want to point out though that I don’t think any actual princess would ever wear strassed shoes at her wedding. Maybe your fiance wants your wedding to be more formal, like an actual princess’s wedding. Why not look at some photos of actual princesses getting married and choose your shoe inspiration from them?

Post # 117
1477 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I recommend buying used shoes. I wanted fancy shoes but couldn’t afford them, so I got lace manolos on ebay for $100. 

Honestly, my first thought with your post was: Welcome to marriage!! 😉

Post # 118
8575 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would have to agree with your fiance on this one, and this might be an unpopular vote, but $400 is ALOT of money for wedding shoes. I understand that you WANT what you want, but surely there is another purple pair of crystal type shoes out there for less than $400.

If you really want $400 shoes, I would rent them [if possible], or get a used pair.


Post # 119
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I am currently strassing a pair of flats for my wedding (so I totally get the sparkle lust you are experiencing)! I read that you are going to strass a test pair, before your bridal shoes? In theory, that is a nice idea … but I think by the time you get to the second shoe on your test pair, you are going to be stick of strassing! It takes FOREVER if you do it properly. I am crafty by nature, and normally enjoy meticulous work, but even for me it’s getting tiring! I know ou said you liked tedious work, but I wouldn’t reccomend strassing 4 shoes in 3 months.

ETA: I will have used less than 4000 crystals by the time I am finished. Make sure you are not over-ordering!

Post # 120
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

a 400 diy IS crazy. you can get miu mius or jimmy choos for that money

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