FH Sister in BP – not attending RD and leaving reception early bc of kids

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

llevinso :  A mom who refuses to get a sitter with a years notice. That is lazy.

Post # 32
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6840 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

weddinggirl2009 :  Maybe the mom didn’t WANT to get a sitter. Just because you think a wedding should be the most important event for everyone in your life, that is simply not the case. You are allowed a childfree wedding (I had one) but you are NOT allowed to dictate people’s responses to it. 

ETA: I also think it’s hilarious that you wrote we have to see it from the “bride’s side”…as if you weren’t posting on a wedding website where basically every single person reading this has been or is currently a bride. We get the bride’s point of view. We’ve been there. You’re still wrong. 

Post # 33
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

llevinso :  Why are you on this forum? News flash this it is about weddings not about how weddings are not important to people. When were you a bride last? You don’t seem to think about the bride and her feelings at all. I feel bad for this girl. People making it about their kids when it is HER wedding not the mother or the child. I am sure the mother of the toddler will be mad when people don’t go to the toddlers wedding when the person grows up. Just saying. Are we suppose to be helping brides or  discussing babysitting?

Post # 34
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6840 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

weddinggirl2009 :  Hahahaha! You’re too much. So because I don’t think other people’s weddings are the most important things on the planet I’m not allowed to be here? Cool story bro.

FYI the advice of “no one thinks your wedding is as important as you do” is like the GO TO piece of advice passed out in these forums. Get used to it.  

Post # 35
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10029 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

weddinggirl2009 :  Maybe this chick just don’t GAF about weddings so she didn’t get a sitter? Or maybe she really don’t care about OP either and thats why she didn’t get a sitter?

You’re assuming this is truly 100% just about her kid. Its more than likely a combination of things. Hell, if I had kids, I’d use them as an excuse to get out of having to spend hours at a wedding once I have spent the adequetly polite amount of time there. I’d be at home eating nachos on my couch in a heartbeat if I had a good out.

Post # 36
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741 posts
Busy bee

weddinggirl2009 :  A persons wedding is not more important than a mother going home early because she did not get a baby sitter. The mother should have hired a baby sitter. It is a fact of life.

She’s attending the wedding though so i’m not sure why you’re implying that she doesn’t think it’s important.  The ceremony is a lot more important than staying until 2am drinking at the reception. 

Post # 39
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653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Kasey Michelle :  A great stress reliever for me is ad adult coloring book.   And OMG have I been coloring since wedding planning!  Good luck!

Post # 41
Member
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Kasey Michelle :  I recommend getting an electric sharpener.  My Fiance got one for me, it’s so much better!

Post # 43
Member
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Kasey Michelle :  It’s a little electric device that you insert a pencil in and it sharpens it for you.  Sharpening pencils is always the worst part, and it makes it a breeze!  I also don’t like using markers lol. 

Post # 44
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9095 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m glad you’re seeing this more rationally. You’re entitled to a child free wedding, she’s entitled to cut loose early because she has children.

I probably wouldn’t stay at a wedding all night since I have a kiddo. Going to your wedding is not “A night out.”

A night out for me is going to go see a play, or going to a quiet restaurant, not being surrounded by 120 drinking people.

I guess that makes me lazy. Sorry not sorry, my kid will always come before a wedding. I think she’s compromising and it works well.

 

Edit: I bought 200 gel pens off Amazon and I much prefer those for my coloring books. The color goes down smoother & stays more consistant unless you buy more expensive colored pencils. Just food for thought!

Post # 45
Member
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Hyperventilate :  Do you have any issues with it bleeding through the page?  That’s always been my concern and why I don’t use markers.  And I’ve found that as long as I keep the tips sharp, my colored pencils last a while, but I did get them from an art store, jsut not the expensive ones. 

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