- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
FH and I decided on a 1.1 carat cushion moissanite solitaire when we got engaged. He let me pick because he wanted me to have something I’d love. And I do. I have in no way, shape or form made him think that I am not happy with my ring, but he wants to buy me another one.
He just brought this up a few weeks ago, and before this I had no idea how he felt.
He says that he doesn’t feel like my ring means that much because it’s “not a real stone” and “I took his romantic plans away from him”.
Backstory: FH and I were engaged for about 7 months before I got the ring. The ring came to my house, I opened the box, checked it out and put it away until FH got here. When he got here, he opened the box and put it on my finger and we went out to dinner.
I thought that was that. Neither of us are romantic people and we both agreed to keep it kinda simple, so I’m not sure how I took his romantic plans away from him.
All that aside, I’ve been trying to tell him that I don’t want another ring and that I’m happy with this one. He’s been looking at jewelry stores and comes home saying how expensive diamonds are and so forth and so on. I keep telling him that I love my ring and we got the better deal because at the time we got engaged, we couldn’t have afforded a 1.1 cushion cut diamond.
I don’t know what to do Bees. He won’t listen. He keeps telling me to be looking at rings and pick my favorites so he can choose this one himself, but when I look at my ring and the price tag on other rings I just can’t do it, but he won’t listen.
I’ve told him that I’d realy love a black diamond right hand ring if he’s so keen on getting me a ring, but he won’t budge and I won’t budge. I’ve brought up just buying another setting and having my stone reset, but he wants a “real” stone…
It’s not like we don’t have the finances to buy a different ring, but I don’t see the point. I think he should save that money for something else. We just bought a house.We have plenty of other things to buy.