(Closed) FH won't let me come to men's warehouse :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I kind of get why he doesn’t want you to come. I’m guessing you don’t want him to see your dress before the big day? Maybe you can let him pick his own tux and not see that, but check that the bridesmaids dresses match with the vest? or get him to bring back a swatch of the colour he picked? My guess is he doesn’t want you to see him in his tux before the big day, which is why he wants to pick it, then show you after.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I didn’t go with my Fiance either….but I was ok with it.  Wanted him and his guys to have a bonding experience together ;).  I did put the info on an index card and give it to him….with the bm dress color, my dress color, and any other tidbits he might he.  He said it came in handy when the sales rep started asking questions!

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think he is being unreasonable. Give him a swatch and plenty of pictures to take with him. I think staying alone for a few hours is not a big deal esp if he doing wedding stuff.I’m in a ldr too, so there have been a few times when he come or I gone and something unavoidable came up. If it really bothers you that much perhaps come down another weekend(although a few hours isn’t really that long and I think it would suck to miss out on the whole weekend)

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t go with Darling Husband. And he picked out ties that horrendously clashed with the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. So I made him go to Marshalls and buy 5 new ties for his Groomsmen. It wasn’t the end of the world.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Ms.Sugarsnap:  Maybe show it to his cousin and make sure he works with the consultant to get it as close as possible? I do think perhaps he can put down the deposit and let you see the tie color before isn’t asking too much, if he has color matching issues.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My Fiance didn’t come with me to pick out my dress, I’m not going with him to pick out the tuxes. Instead, I handed him a swatch and told him to go do what he wants. He doesn’t look a mess any other time of the year, I doubt he’ll look one or put his groomsmen in a position to look a mess on our wedding….

He’s a big boy. He can dress himself.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you have a very specific vision I would talk with him about it before they go to make sure he is on board (gray suits vs black tuxes vs khaki vests and pants ect.)

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If he won’t let you go with him, I think you should definitely tell him exactly what to get and the colors/details of everything.  If your Fiance is like most straight men, he probably doesn’t have any idea about colors and styles and may order something that clashes with you and your BMs.  Does he have a really keen eye for fashion or something?

When Darling Husband and I went to the boutique to order tux rentals, the salesperson pretty much just talked to me–the men should wear whatever looks good with the rest of the wedding!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I don’t think he is being unreasonable. This is his opportunity to go out with his groomsmen and pick tuxes, just like I imagine you picked out a dress with your friends.  And really, he is not responsible to keep you entertained by having you come along. 

If you are worried about colour matching, just provide him some pictures of the colours/swatches. He can give them to the tux place and they can figure out what colours he ought to be looking at if he is not good with colours himself.

Granted, this is from a woman who had no bridesmaids, “colours”, and whose husband wanted to (and did) sew his own outfit, and who just wanted him to wear whatever the heck he wanted.  I just really do not see this is a big deal or that there is going to be a catastrophe of clashing colours if you don’t go along.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I totally understand how you feel. Could you tell him that you won’t go if that’s how he feels but would he mind if you printed out a pic of the colors/bridesmaid dresses that he could bring with him to guide his selection of his accent colors?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

 i think unless you are giving him input on your dress, you cant really expect to have input on his tux! print out the bridesmaids dress pics and let him choose by himself

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Unless they pick out ones dumb and dumber style I think they are pretty boring and close to the same. Do people actually wear different colors like pink/blue/purple vests/ties under the tuxes? I thought that went the way of the dodo and everyone basically wore neutrals?

 

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