Post # 17
You’ve been given a few alternatives which are pretty good. If you dislike the idea of the money dance because it invoves your guests “paying” to dance with you and your husband then you can either change it up with some of the bee’s suggestions or make an excuse like you don’t like dancing with strangers (I would never tell someone their traditions are tacky).
It’s YOUR wedding and you should NEVER do anything you’re not comfortable with. We didn’t have a money dance and my husband is half mexican. His dad asked if we were having one, I said “No”, he asked “Why, you can get a lot of money that way”, I said “I really don’t care for them”. End of story!!
Post # 18
I think you should be honest with his family about why you don’t want to have one. Personally I don’t have a problem with them. Every wedding I have ever attended all over the US has had one and we will have one too. Good luck with your decsion.
Post # 19
I think the Dollar Dance is really just supposed to be fun and intended to give you one-on-one time with the bride/groom. Every wedding that I’ve been to that has had one, has not had a box for the money though. The norm around here is that the money gets pinned to bride/groom right before you dance with them. Usually thats part of the fun i.e. where each person pins their bill. I’ve seen it pinned as a long tail on the groom, as a boutineer, a ring, in the bride’s hair. It can get pretty entertaining! And if I don’t know the groom, then I dance with the Bride!
Op, if you feel awkward about it then just don’t do it. If someone asks you why you aren’t doing it, just say it makes you feel awkward. No need to lie.
Post # 20
The pinning on the person sounds like fun!