(Closed) FH’s friend going to bachelor party but not wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Guys probably don’t enjoy weddings as much as they do 4 days in Vegas – plus if he has to choose one or the other, Vegas/Bach trip will definitely give him more face time with your Fiance, a whole weekend of fun together instead of just ten minutes at the wedding.

It’s tough that he can’t make both, but he probably has good reasons/intentions behind the decision he’s made!

Post # 4
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think its great that his is making an effort to even make it to the bach party.. Sure a little dissapointing for his friend not to be making it for the big day, but at least hes making an effort. he couldve not come to the bach party and your FH would have been more devo!



Post # 5
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Guys don’t think like us.  To them, they’re both a party.  He just chose to the Vegas party instead of the NY party.  

Try not to be offended.  I don’t think he’s meaning to be offensive.  

Post # 6
2680 posts
Sugar bee

If your fiancee is not offended, I wouldnt be for him.  Work can take precedence over other things and his friend might not have the money or time to go to both Vegas and NY which depending on where you live, can be super far to either place.  Ive had a lot of guy friends get married that have friends go with them to the bachelor party that cant make it to the wedding.

Post # 7
348 posts
Helper bee

I’ve actually done this to a friend.  I really couldn’t go to the wedding, so I made an extra effort (few across the country to surprise her) to go to her bachelorette party in order to be able to participate in some of the festivities and show that she was important to me.  If your FI’s friend can’t come to the wedding, then he can’t, and whether or not he can go to the bachelor party won’t change that. I think it’s great that he will be able to go to the bachelor party to get to spend time with your Fiance.

Post # 8
9048 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I say the same.  I think it’s nice that he’s making the effort to attend the event that he’s able to. 

Money-wise as well, for me it would cost almost 2000 to get to new York for two days, but only about 500 to get to Vegas.  This could be a factor depending where he lives as well.

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