(Closed) FI 3rd old son in wedding… help!

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 45
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194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, not to be bitchy – but it’s your FI’s wedding too, and his son will be part of your family soon. Make him the ring bearer, it’s a small sacrifice.

Post # 46
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7586 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have the most amazing 3 year old bonus son. When we got married he was 3yr and 2 months. He was our ring bearer and he had no issues. He was so cute and totally fantastic during the whole thing. You are not just marrying this man, but you are marrying his son as well. (I am concerned that you called him baggage, but I’ll let it go and hope that you said it in jest) If you aren’t ready to have him in the wedding than you might not be ready to have him in your life. I’m not trying to be a jerk when I say this, but saying it out of concern for your relationship with your Fiance and more importnantly your soon to be bonus son. How is this not the cutest thing you’ve ever seen?

Post # 47
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9028 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

3 is definitely a bit young in my opinion, in ourbridal party the youngest person was 5, I really wanted to use my nephew but he was 2.5 and sooo unpredictable! However since he is your FI’s son I really dont think you can just say no,

Post # 48
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7586 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My niece was our flower girl too and she was only 17 months. She had a bit more of a struggle getting down the aisle, but it really was super cute and everyone loved it. (She started to go backwards)

Post # 49
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i am so glad you clarified because i was about to read you the riot act like so many others, lol…i have a son who is 16mo at the moment and will be 2 and a half at our wedding next october.  i understand where you are coming from.  Fiance and i have talked about it and we know for sure that he HAS to part of the ceremony (FI plans on adopting DS officially after we’re married).  we don’t know what we’re going to do with him yet though, because not only is the behavior of a 2 and a half year old unpredictable sometimes, it’s impossible to predict just how unpredicable he’ll be!  i don’t believe in symbolic ring-bearers…if he’s not actually carrying the rings (which he probably won’t be), we’ll have to figure out another way to include him.  i thought about having him hold my hand as i walk down the aisle, or possibly having him stand with Fiance and FI’s brother as a tiny “groomsman”, and definitely including him in the vows.

good luck with it…i’m sure it’ll turn out great!

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