(Closed) Fi about to lose his job… 3 months prior to the wedding :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry to hear that 🙁  I hope things work out for you guys! And if you have to postpone the wedding for money reasons, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. It might be a stressful idea now, but it would ease your mind about paying bills until he finds a new job!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I’m so sorry to hear this. I agree that maybe you could consider postponing the wedding. In the mean time, maybe focus on helping your Fiance revamp his resume and practice interviewing skills. The fact that you know it coming let’s you be more prepared and if he starts seriously looking for a job now he may find one in time for you to stay on track. I’d suggest he starts looking right now, as it’s easier to find a job when you have one. Good luck!

Post # 7
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh I’m so sorry.

I hope he can find something before he’s actually out of work.

Hoping this all works out fr you.

Post # 8
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  Oh so sorry to hear this news, this happened to Fiance and I to earlier this year and although we are not getting married until next year like you we were committed to setting aside money until then for it..

However, STAY POSITIVE is the best advice a friend gave to me.. it was hard becuase I really just wanted to cry every day but that would not have helped, as others have said get his resume up to date and start sending it out now – send it to companies that are not advertising too as there are hundreds of jobs that are never advertised.  My Fiance found a job in a month (all be it on the other side of the country bringing another set of problems!!), so it CAN be done.  join all the employment agencies, speak to friends and friends of friends (network – this was how Fiance found out about the job he now has!). 

Only you can decide if postponing the wedding is the right thing – but if it is no one is going to think badly of you if you have to…

Good Luck to him on his job search 🙂

Post # 9
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

So sorry to hear that, my fiances job is laying a bunch of people off too so Im hoping hes not the next to go, but as soon as they started, he began applying to other jobs. If worse comes to worse, and he cant find another, there is always temp work. It would at least pay the bills :/ Good luck with everything

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m so sorry, but I want you to know you CAN do it.  My Fiance lost his job in September (bad), was denied unemployment (worse) and we were recently given custody of his little sister (worst).  We’ve gone from living pretty well with no worries to paycheck to paycheck with the added stress of paying for and caring for a teenager (we’re 31 and 32 ourselves).  

Every added bump was upsetting, but we have found out we CAN do it!  We don’t get to do all the fun stuff we did before, but it really has helped us be more responsible and frugal.  We cut coupons, shop sales and spend more nights at home, but we are happy.  Planning and paying for the wedding has been an obstacle, but we’re doing what we can afford– if people don’t like it, they can deal with it.  All that matters is that you get married in the end!  FWIW, our vendors have been EXTREMELY accomodating with us and were willing to compromise on some things after we explained our circumstances.  There’s no shame in being honest– you might get a better reaction than you expect.

GOOD LUCK– you’ll be fine and I wish you both the best!

Post # 11
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Sorry. I hope he finds something before he ends his present job so he doesn’t have that lull of nothingness. Can he go onto unemployment if he doesn’t find anything after? At least it’s something…

Post # 12
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13017 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so sorry!  Definitely try to call your vendors and see if you can work out some sort of a payment plan so you could pay off some of the wedding afterwards.  Presumably, you’ll get some monetary gifts the day of the wedding that you could use to pay off some of the debt. 

Good luck!

Post # 13
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  I dont think rush into postponing it until you have had a chance to talk about it and maybe he can get aother job soon or a temporary job.  If you have already informed your guests it will be harder to postpone (but if you have to you can) & it would be silly to lose deposits etc.  But can you borrow some money from your family and also ask for payment plans from vendors. Maybe see if you can cut some things out from food menu? Sell some things you have and dont need?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  Your poor Fiance, I’m sure it will work out. You will have an awesome wedding day I’m sure. 

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