(Closed) FI accidentally saw my dress and I got totally upset

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Don’t stress about it. In 14 months he’ll probably have forgotten what it looks like, but even if he hasn’t it will be TOTALLY different in real life compared to a picture.

Post # 4
1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

There was a thread about this last week.  Relax.  He’s a guy.  You think he’s going to remember what something he saw for a split second looked like in 14 months?

I’ve posted this previously, but it’s worth repeating: I can 100% guarantee that if you wear the dress on the big day, he will have NO CLUE that it’s the same dress as the one you showed him.

Dudes don’t care about dresses (for the most part).  They care about what’s inside the dresses.


You’ll have plenty of things to worry about over the course of your planning.  This is not one of them.  Don’t create drama where there isn’t any…there is sure to be some at some point, but not over the dress!  πŸ™‚

More here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/well-i-guess-guys-have-their-own-opinions


Post # 5
16 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Lovemelovemyhorses:  +1


my fiancé saw mine when his sister accidentally was scrolling through pictures.  My first inclination was to be upset, but it was a genuine accident and I know for a fact on our wedding day, I’m going to look totally different then in the picture with my hair sloppy and the dress two sizes too big.  He has 14 months to forget what it looks like and when you are madeup and fitted perfectly in your dress, you’ll take his breath away.

Post # 6
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Your over reacting, he is a guy. I doubt he is going to even remember it in 14 months, the details will just fade to white dress. Anyways you’ll look way more amazing with your hair done up and accessorized so you won’t even look like you did in the picture.

Post # 7
6533 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I remember a bee posting a while back about her husband not recognizing her wedding dress in pictures AFTER the wedding, and he’d seen her in it all day. I don’t think you have anything to worry about!

Post # 8
2444 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

He won’t remember or if he does it won’t be accurate. Plus when you show up on your weddjng day you’ll be decked out so it will be a completely different look.

Post # 9
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with PP. He wont remember it, it was a split second. Plus he will still think you are absolutely gorgeous when you walk down the aisle to become his wife. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think it’s okay, like other PP have said he will honestly probably forget what it looks like.

But, if you’re really concerned, and you have the funds, you can always look around for a new dress. (I hate recommending this because I think it’s silly when ladies continue to look at /try on dresses even if they’ve purchased one, but if you’re really upset….)

Post # 11
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I vote he wont remember and even if he does, you’ll look totally different, look at the before and after thread on here, there’s a bunch of bees that posted pics of before, in the store, etc, then after, all done up on their wedding day- and it’s a very dramatic difference. Plus, with as much time as you have, he will likely forget, esp if you have bride magazines or go online looking bridal stuff, he’ll see other dresses and yours will become a blur. I would have covered and said,” oh yea that was one of several I was originally contemplating” and dropped it-but it might be too late for that :/  sorry, that sucks, but I think these days, it’s not as big of a deal, not sure where that whole thing came from, he will be in awe no matter what you wear coming down that aisle. Just relax and try not to worry about it πŸ™‚ it’s just a dress. 

Post # 12
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mink:  You are so hilarious. Love your posts, always.


I vote that he will not remember! Case in point – The other day I was going to try on some clothes I ordered online. I told my Fiance that I was going to show him them. But before I changed into anything I got distracted by a phone call.

I was still wearing my work dress, but had just taken my sweater off. I’m walking around the apartment talking on the phone, and my Fiance stops me and says “WOW! I love that dress. You look great!” I just burst out laughing. I was wearing the same thing I’d been wearing for the last two hours and that I’ve wore once a week for the past 2 months! He thought it was new. πŸ™‚

If you are really worried and think he’ll remember for sure, you could tell your Fiance you bought a different dress, but wear the original! Then, he’d still be surprised over what you’re wearing even if he does somehow remember.


Post # 13
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My fiance also saw a picture of me in the dress when I was scrolling through pics on my phone.  He saw a mini picture of it on my Macbook in my files and I did get upset and lied to him, telling him it wasn’t “the one”.  Honestly, looking at that picture and remember how I actually looked in the dress at the salon were completely two different things and the pictures DO NOT DO JUSTICE to the real thing πŸ™‚  It’s been about two months now and he totally forgot what it looks like.

Post # 14
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

you should photoshop yourself onto a horrid dress and tell him youve pck another one, and accidently let him see it.. then he’ll be suprised when he sees you in your real dress… and i really doubt he’ll remember it.. itll be lost in his short term memory..

Post # 15
12 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry, maybe it’s a cultural difference thing but I still don’t get why girls try so hard to hide their wedding dresses from their partners, I mean, you probably go suit shopping with him and you get upset beacuse he has the slightest idea of what you’ll be wearing, to me that’s kind of unfair.

If my fiance wasn’t in the army (military service is mandatory here) I would loooove to go dress shopping with him, this is the most fun and exciting part of wedding planning and I would like to share every minute of it with him. I still send him pictures of dresses I like and ask his opinion, which to me is more important than anyone else’s.. Well, each to their own I guess.. I hope I didn’t offend anyone, that’s just how I feel πŸ˜‰

Like PP said, just relax, I’m sure he’ll still be surprised on the day of, unless he sees you gussied up in a beautiful wedding dress every day πŸ™‚

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