Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Ugh. Fiance and his mom got into a pretty big fight tonight. She wants to do Pink’s Perfect as their dance. Its just not appropriate for a wedding. Its about someone who has low self esteem- NOT Fiance. I mean seriously the song starts out about making bad decisions. Riiiiight. Lets play that at our wedding. Then talks about being out of place and underestimated and mistreated! He absolutely does not like this song for their dance. He has told her that multiple times. She told him that since he has made some bad decisions, which btw he doesnt think were bad, and he left home when he was 17 due to her controllingness she thinks it fits. He just lost it. Hes tired of her bringing up him leaving home. Which he to this day does not regret and is still happy he did. But were getting married. It was 3 years ago. And she still wont let it go. So then he started getting text messages from his 15 year old sister because his mom went and cried to her that he text yelled at her. lol. Shes just so freaking crazy sometimes. I gave her 2 great songs 2 weeks ago when she first brought up the pink song. Taylor Swifts Never Grow Up, which Fiance loves, hes actually a big fan of Taylor Swift and loves how soothing that song is. Well FI’s mom said no, she hates taylor swift. So i suggested Christina Aguilera’s All I Need which she wrote about her son. Idk if anyone has heard it before, but its beautiful. It brings tears to my eyes, and really captures a mothers love for her son. So how would you guys handles this. Im thinking we either A- Just tell her here is the song were doing, end of discussion. B- Just not do it at all. C- Or just combine the mother/son dance with my dance with my papa. I mean, i want my moment with my papa, but if it will end the drama. Were dancing to Miley Cyrus’s When I Look at You, however, so im sure if she cant stand taylor swift she cant stand miley cyrus. But the lyrics are so nice 🙂
Post # 3
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Busy bee
maybe if you gave her a larger list of songs that were appropriate she’d be more likey to choose? give her a little more freedom so it’s more like her choice and not just picking between a or b.
also, i bet if you make a poll you’ll get more responses/opinions
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
We told her anytime she thought of a song to let us know. But she wont let go of this pink thing. Fiance really, really like the taylor song. But she didnt like it. It was not brought up once after that. I just feel like shes being selfish and ruining something that should be special. And now has his little sister attacking him. He was so upset he just went straight to bed.
@Lee Ann- Im too lazy to bother with a poll. lol. Actually, i really just needed to vent. I’m going to give Fiance one of the 3 options tomorrow and let him choose since its his dance.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I think that’s a good idea, if she’s determined to be difficult, i would just leave it up to whatever your Fiance wants. Good Luck : )
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
Maybe give her some ideas that go with her generation a little more? It sounds like you guys are really stuck on new, almost tween songs which makes her completely out of her element. We’re combining and using “In My Life” by the Beatles which our parents like and can relate to. If she can’t relate to the music, then its going to be more difficult for her.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
@kingytobe- Well shes the one who suggested Pink. I figured she might want something different than what i listen to which is why i gave her the christina aguilera song. I deff realize Taylor swfit isnt for everyone. Im not upset at all that they havent chosen a song, and if she were suggesting other songs i wouldnt be upset at all. Im just irritated that she said no to a song Fiance really liked then brought up a song he doesnt like at all, but wont let it go. He asked her to listen to the Christina song and she flat out refused. Plus she had his sister start attacking him. He was super excited about this dance, now not so much. Its just such a stupid thing for them to fight over. I was looking through the boards and found someone doing Never Alone by Lady Antebellum and i thought that was great, so I told Fiance to suggest it. But if she wont even listen to another song theres no point in us trying to find something.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
If the lyrics are that important to you I think it’s odd you’d suggest Never Grow Up….lines such as ‘Wish I’d never grown up’ and ‘I just realized everything I have is someday gonna be gone’ hardly seem appropriate. I would just drop the subject for now, hopefully she’ll get over it.
Post # 9
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Newbee
Sounds like she’s not going to like any song you pick so tell her this is the song if you don’t like it then there won’t be a mother son dance
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
people fight over the smallest things, aww
they just pick something they both like
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
@courtney1118- Fiance loves that song by taylor swift. I tend to look more at the lyrics which i why i suggested All I Need by Christina Aguilera. Fiance has loved that taylor song since he first heard it, and he says its just so nice sounding and reminds of being little.
@ilovenycmissie- I think its soooo stupid they are fighting, they still havent talked since the fight! lol. But i found soo many more songs that i keep wanting Fiance to suggest to her, like michael buble, who Fiance and his mom both adore, but really how can u not love him, but he has called her a few times and still no call back……… So……. now im not sure what we will do.
