(Closed) FI and I are freaking crazy – but why not buy a house a month before the wedding

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Post # 16
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

That’s so exciting! DH and I started looking for a house 3 months before our wedding. We were down to two a month before. But, there were significant reasons not to go with either, so we ended up finding an apartment! But if we had chosen to go with the house we would be on your situation! 

Congratulations! I hope everything works out! 🙂

Post # 17
2013 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

How exciting! We just started house hunting, as well. Going through the preapproval process now. Our lease on our townhouse ends in August so we need to find something by then, and we get married in October! I don’t think you’re crazy at all. 🙂 I hope our experience is as quick and successful as yours!

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Post # 18
2176 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

we were sort of forced into buying a house 6 months before our wedding because our former landlords sold our rental and gave us like 60 days to find a new place. We knew that we wanted to buy (and had already sort of looked a little) but were planning on waiting till after the wedding….. since getting another rental would have cost us another year and about $10,000 in moving costs we decided to just find a place and get it done — within a month we found a place, it took another 60 days or so to close and then we had to rent back to the old owners for another month before we could move it…. in the end we moved into our new place on july 1st and got married the first week in october so it was almost exactly 3 m before out wedding.

I wouldn’t say that buying plus wedding planning was something I would do if I had the choice but it worked out ok for us in the end and everything got done enough… like for instance we still haven’t hung up any art work because by the time we were settled in it was wedding time then I wanted to wait till our pics were done, then it was christmas then…. so as long as you are ok with taking somethings slower than others I don’t see it being a bad decision

Post # 20
27 posts
  • Wedding: February 2002

Congratulations!!!!!  You’ll be fine!  We closed on our house in December, moved in January (this was also the first time we moved in together, so we EACH moved separately with all our single household items), I transferred locations with my job, then we were married in February.  You can definitely do it.  My advice is to stay organized— lists and actually obeying them, don’t get distracted or take on any new projects no matter how small, and just look forward to the rewards.  When it’s all over you will have the greatest sense of peace and accomplishment; it will all be worth it.  

Post # 21
1837 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my SIL and her husband did this. it went fine for them


eta: and actually, come to think of it, they closed the week of their wedding and moved in

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Post # 24
1316 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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MsYankee:  I don’t think it’s crazy haha! We have plans to do the exact same thing, purchase 1-2 months before the wedding, get move-in stuff finished, and then after the wedding, we can finally RELAX.

Post # 25
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Haha, we renovated (and by “we” I mean just us doing all the work haha) an entire second floor right before our wedding – we are actually still working on it a bit!

Yep, it’s crazy – just be prepared for it to pop up at the worst moments!! 😛

Oh and PS – all that work we did was super worth it, whether we were getting hitched in the middle of it or not. Good luck!!! <3

Post # 26
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

trust me if you can wait, wait.  I’m going through absolute insanity.  I get married next month and we are closing the week after the wedding.  My stress level having the attorney, real estate agent, mortgage broker, all wedding vendors, church, bridal party, reception venue calling me/emailing/ or texting every single day is so overwhelming.  When you put an offer in you have to immediately set up your attorney go through review, we had 7 days to get our inspection and start the mortgage right away, have an appointment and sign those papers so you have your commitment letter in time.  Then go back and forth with your attorney about the inspection report things that need to be fixed and the point the sellers are going to meet and negotiate that.  all while  having things scheduled for the wedding back to back after your house appointments.  If I could go back I would have waited at least till the week after the wedding to do this.  I might be in a slightly different situation since my fiancé cannot take the calls with his job since he has too much going on there but I just recently talked to my boss about taking a mental health day to just relax without having to think about the house or wedding that is how high my stress level has risen right now.



Post # 29
2843 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you’re crazy, we’re crazier. We’re doing a total remodel of mine. 

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