- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I understand that this is a stupid meaningless fight…but it doesn’t mean we’ve stopped having it!
Fiance has been on me and on me to admit that registering is wrong…conditionally.
And we have circled around this issue for weeks, and I am just so freaking frustrated.
He says that the rules of etiquette only apply to certain social circles…so while where I come from, registering is perfectly appropriate and welcome, where he comes from, it’s seen as rude and pretentious. (FTR, his family actually does feel this way, he’s not just picking a fight about it)
So, he says that while he personally believes that registering is fine, he just wants me to admit that your social class decides the issue, and to be prepared that if I keep the registeries that we made (and he supports!) his family will purposefully not buy from it, and probably not buy us anything. Which, at this point, is not even what I care about anymore, though I still think not even bringing a card is pretty freaking rude.
Now, obviously he’s not going to admit that the problem might be *ahem* his family, but it’s one of those things that makes me feel like digging my heels in the sand and saying “it’s not MY problem if they think that way.”
So, to be clear: he loves our registry, and he wants to keep it, he just wants me to say that his family, because of their economic standing is right in thinking that it’s pretentious, as far as they go. This is not about spending money, or purchasing from the registry or not, it’s about the simple act of registering. And I say he’s cracked!
Is there some validity to this that I’m not seeing? A way that this makes sense that I’m unable to understand?