(Closed) FI and I disagree on how to spend day before wedding

posted 4 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I agree with your Fiance. We separated until the rehersal and it was fantastic. Us girls got our nails done and our tans and sat around and chatted. I loved it.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I actually had some final things to take care of by myself before our rehearsal.  I was at my parents’ house getting some last minute things done and I also got my mani/pedi with my girls.  My husband had to work the day before too, as did many of our bridal party (most are local).

Ultimately it’s up to you what you want to do, but I will warn you, you will probably have some last minute things to take care of.  As fun as it would be to hang out with the bridal party together, you don’t want to overbook yourselves before the wedding.  Maybe you can go out as a group after the rehearsal dinner?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

liaeona:  Lots of guys go golfing or share some other activity the day before the wedding. Personally, I wouldn’t want to be there if the guys are going to be smoking cigars. The smell is going to get into your skin,your hair, your clothes-everything. That would not be my perfume of choice for the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Yes my FI’s best man tried to say that too. Nope, this goes back to the days when the stag/bachelor thing was the night before (those old sitcoms about the groom just making it on time to the wedding, all dishevelled). 

Sorry, you don’t get two stag nights.  We’ve got shit to do the day before – I’ve planned this entire wedding myself and the least you can do is not let me run around delivering things to the venue and keeping on top of last minute details while you swan off with your friends and have a fun day. 

In short, we will be together – getting everything ready and hosting out of town guests.

You can probably tell, it was probably the one thing I felt strongly about. 

ETA – we don’t have rehearsal dinners here, so the best man was talking about a proper “day and night out with the boys”

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  daffodils.
Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Never heard of that kind of tradition. What will your bridesmaids want to do?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Sorry, but this just doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to me. Your fiance gets a say in his wedding too, and it sounds like this is a small thing that would make him happy, and also a chance for you to hang out with the women in your family/bridal party. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I dont know if its tradition but i wouldnt argue over it. I spent the day before my wedding running errands, as far as bourbon vs spa day. Id would prefer the spa day, only because I would appreciate a chance to get my nails done…lol

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

liaeona:  I don’t get how making it a mixed gender event or not, affects what your Dad would do?  He won’t attend either way.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Can’t you compromise? The morning is for getting last minute wedding stuff done together, the afternoon he can have his thing with his friends….try to remember you’re going to have your honeymoon, etc with him. If he’s asking for one afternoon with his friends, and everything is done, does it really matter?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

julies1949:  +1 

I agree with your Fiance here, you are going to be married forever so I don’t see why hanging out with your own side of the bridal party the day before is a big deal. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

liaeona:  you’ll see them at the wedding. Remember too, if you have friends coming in from out of town, they may be wanting to spend time with just YOU, instead of with these guys they don’t even know.

Realistically, a big group event isn’t “quality time” with anyone, whether it’s the day before or the actual wedding.

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