Post # 1
i just have to share because i am truly so happy. FI and i have disagreed on when to start TTC ever since the start of our relationship (or rather, when things started getting serious). we always KNEW we wanted to have kids but we could never agree on an age to start TTC. he always said mid thirties and i always wanted mid to late twenties. we had a talk last night and finally agreed that we would start TTC in three years. i know that seems so far away but to me, it seems so near and i am so thrilled that we have finally come to an agreement on when to start our family! yay! by that time, we will have been together for six years, we will be both 27 years old, settled in our new city that we are moving to in two weeks, and we will be emotionally/financially ready to support the responsiblity a baby brings. i seriously cannot wait.
have you and your FI/SO disagreed on when to start TTC? what age have you compromised on?
Post # 3
Glad you came to an agreement! Hopefully in 3 years it all works out for you both. We are going to start TTC around our one year wedding anniversary mark (so 16ish months from now). I am 29, FI will be 32 at wedding, so we don’t want to wait too long. For us, it wasn’t really by age. If I had it my way, I would have been married with one baby by now. 🙂 We are already at a good point in our lives – jobs are stable, finances are stable, we own a home, emotions are stable. We want to enjoy married life just us two for a year.
Post # 4
@GeorgiaBride5: that was my FI’s issue too…although we’ve been together and lived together for 3 years, he wants to enjoy being married for awhile before kids come along. for me, i would have a baby right now!
so happy for you :’)
Post # 5
We havent really officially decided when, but our honeymoon is next year and we will def not start before then. I always thought that I would have kids in my early 30s so if we start next summer (I will be 30 in Jan) that would be right in line. I also truly never thought I would get married or have kids anyway, and if I did it would be a long time after I got married but hey… Sometimes life isn’t the way you thought it would be ha.
Post # 6
Congrats on coming to an agreement! Husband and I are 28 and have set a similar goal (2-3 years). From my own experience though, we keep on pushing it away once we come closet to the date. We were asked a couple of years ago when and said “in two years”, which would be now, but we aren’t even considering that now, lol. But that also has to do, with me going back to school etc.
Post # 7
i wanted to walk down the ailse, 2-3 months pregnant.
a year and a half into our relationship, i found out i had fibroids and doctors told me best course of action would be to get pregnant ASAP.
when we got engaged and picked our wedding date, i told FI I wanted to start trying in july or august. we talked alot about it because FI didn’t want to start until after our wedding. (I’m 31, he’s 35), We agreed to wait until our our wedding night to start TTC now I’ll be able to drink lots of wine on our Italy honeymoon.
What’s another few months anyway….