- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I hope my post doesn’t lose your interest once you see how long it is. lol
I don’t really know how to start so I’ll just do the best i can so you can understand my situation.
My mom is 44, looks like in her early 30s, acts like she’s 21. She smokes weed, she’s a “hustler,” always making money not honorably, a liar and I seriuosly think she’s bipolar. Goes out every weekend and seems happier to be out with friends and her bf, more then hanging out with her family. I am 28 and a total opposite of my mom. I like yo go out once in a while, but I perfer to be a homebody, stay at home, watch a movie and order pizza. lol. I don’t do any drugs, I do drink socialably. I don’t like lying, I like to follower the rules and I try to be as honest of a person I can be. I always felt like the parent.
I currently live with her because I was in an abusive relationship for 8yrs, left him and can’t afford my own place right now. I do pay her rent but I don’t have my own room and no privacy. We have always gotten along better when I lived on my own. We are too opposite and I don’t like her “gangster” “hardcore” mentality ways. And she makes me feel dumb and naive for always wanting to do things the “right” way. (Follow rules.) Even in relationships, I like to be 100% honest, communicate, help out with money when I can, like pay for the movies or dinner, here and there. But she dated so many douchebags that she just thinks all guys are liars, cheaters and you shouldn’t trust them in the beginning. I believe you go into a relationship trusting them. Why go into a relationship already bitter?
Ok, now my problem… My Fiance and I have a great relationship. I have never been happier! He’s amazing, knows my past and has always been respectful to my family, especially my mom, even though she was always accusing him of being a liar, having a “double life” (married, gf…) weird, for no reason she was always saying negative things about him. Just recently she had $10,000 stolen from her house. She has criminal friends, just like her, but had the nerve to look at my Fiance as a suspect. He is an ex marine, use to fight in brazilian jui jitsu and kickboxing, still teaches it. Even thoght classes for police officers. Worked for the FBI, has a BA in microbiology, never gotten even a traffic ticket, most honest person you can meet.
With all this drama she has caused, I’m tired of her. Its never ending. My Fiance has spoken to her many times and she apologizes, but it goes through one ear, out the other. We are supposed to get married in Feb. But I don’t want her apart of anything. My Fiance doesn’t either. Even my dad is supporting us, knowing how she is. She does cry and apologizes, but I’m numb about her already. It has been like this my whole life. Of couse I love my mom, but why would I want her to be apart of anything when she has been putting our relationship down and causing all tgese accusations.