(Closed) FI and I have had the stripper talk!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Great that you two had the talk and are on the same page early in the process.  Makes things easier.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

great idea..

I will definitely have this talk with my guy too closer to time…cuz I am not okay with it.

πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I had the talk early in the relationship.  He knows that I don’t have anything against exotic dancers and am not in the camp of “its morally wrong” or anything like that, BUT at the same time, i don’t appreciate him going for OUR bachelor party.

I’m a weirdo.

I most likely wouldn’t ask him not to go if it were someone else’s party, just not ours. because I think it’s an insult to me jif it were. Why do you need a last night of looking at a ‘real sexy woman’ before you’re ‘tied down to your ball and chain’  I’m sexy and I’m not a ball and chain, thank you very much.  If he were to go for another bride’s fh’s party?  That’s THAT brides problem, not mine.

But he doesn’t really like that whole stripper thing because he doesn’t like that over processed, fake everything looking kind of girl that most of them are.  He also doesn’t like spending that much money on a beer so he can see a girl that doesn’t even really turn his crank.

So luckily, I don’t have too much of a battle.

Now if all the dancers were natural, wholesome beauties, just putting themselves through school or the likes, with no makeup, no harsh mack-truck-smacked looking faces and who didn’t wear ‘strippers 101’ sequined clothing?  We might have a problem.

 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Oneeleven: lol I was the only stripper without a fake tan and fake boobs, but I’m naturally tan and was a perky D cup when I use to strip. I paid for a year of school and housing while doing it.

This is a good thread. Women have to speak up and stop thinking they are going to look insecure or controlling. If you don’t speak up and expect him to read your mind, you are going to be on the bee venting about his party soon after.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My FH says he wouldn’t want to have strippers. He says it would be awkward to him seeing random women naked in person. He watches porn, and I don’t care about that. But something about the woman being in person bothers me. I trust him beyond words but I don’t know. It just bothers me! I asked him not to do the “wild bachelors party” thing, but I feel guilty, like I am being a prude. πŸ™ I would just hope that if he wanted to see a naked woman dance for him, he’d ask me! I don’t know. I just feel guilty since the women in my FH family “let” their husbands have strippers at their parties. πŸ™

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My FH says he wouldn’t want to have strippers. He says it would be awkward to him seeing random women naked in person. He watches porn, and I don’t care about that. But something about the woman being in person bothers me. I trust him beyond words but I don’t know. It just bothers me! I asked him not to do the “wild bachelors party” thing, but I feel guilty, like I am being a prude. πŸ™ I would just hope that if he wanted to see a naked woman dance for him, he’d ask me! I don’t know. I just feel guilty since the women in my FH family “let” their husbands have strippers at their parties. πŸ™

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had the talk with Fiance, mostly I didnt mnd a club, or public strippers, but I wasnt too thrilled with HIS party having a private stripper. I know some guys (and none of his friends are married) try to get it crazy, but in public to me its more fun for them. He chose to have a small poker night at a friends (tonight actually) In reality I am probably going to have a slightly intoxicated Fiance talking about how they played dungens and dragons instead (they played in high school, and have been talking about playing a game for fun… nerdy fun!! lol)

He told me he wasnt comfortable at all with me having any strippers or strip club, which was fine because I had already planned of having a girls night in a hotel with a martini bar. We are a WILD couple!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I could care less about strippers or strip clubs.  I nipped that issue in the bud a long time ago when I went WITH him to a strip club with some friend’s for a party.  We had tons of fun, and when the bachelor party talk came up, he said he wouldn’t go without me because he wouldn’t have as much fun there without me!

So for real, we will all probably go out as a group, hit the bars, end up in a strip and I’ll buy my Fiance a friggin dance if he wants one, I could care less.  But that’s just me, I’m super liberal.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

That is a fantastic idea and I think I’ll bring it up with the Fiance tonight! Just to make sure we’re on the same page. πŸ™‚ Though, I suspect any strippers hired by his mates will be of the grossest variety they can find for the sake of a joke on him! That’s how those lads are, hehe, so I won’t be too bothered if it’s in the cards, knowing them!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I have decided neither of us are having “batchelor/batchelorette” parties.. He did his time in strip clubs before me and we dont feel its appropriate anymore.. JMO

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can careless if he has a stripper at his bachelor party or not.( I’ve been to strip clubs with him) Plus he’s not the one going to get a stripper, it’s his friends. If I did have a problem with it, it would be pointless to tell him not to have one, he doesn’t have control of what his friends decide to do, they are all grown men after all.If I had a problem with it they, meaning his friends, would probably have one anyway and keep it a secret from all the wives (they’ve done this before). On that note he’s going away to miami for about 4 days for his bachlor party. SO they will probably be at the beach, at the clubs/strip clubs and drinking! Doesn;t bother me, I trust him.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The idea of strippers does not scare me as much as..

the new girl at his office..

the girl in the sexy dress in front of us..

the girlfriend of one of his friends who has other attractive girlfriends..

his ex showing up randomnly…

lol those are the ones I worry about, but I guess that is a whole other thread

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@Tanya5484:

Being okay or not with your man going to see strippers isn’t always about trust. 

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