(Closed) FI and I live together already…do we have to do gifts for each other?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What do you think about giving each other gifts in our situation
    You do not need to do it, its just an old tradition, : (57 votes)
    70 %
    You don't NEED to do it, but I would recommend doing at least something (even something small) : (22 votes)
    27 %
    You definitely should get each other something to signify your new lives together : (2 votes)
    2 %
    It's worth breaking the bank for getting each other nice gifts : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We dont do gifts to each other too.  I actually think it’s weird to “give” each other something when we’ve combined money and can easily buy whatever we want.  We don’t really want stuff that often, so trying to give a gift is nearly impossible cause we truely dont want anything so it’d just be a waste of our money.

    Post # 4
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    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Eh, I didn’t even realize the bride/groom got each other gifts until I came on the bee. We didn’t get each other anything, we figured marrying each other is kind of a huge deal enough as it is. We also didn’t get each other Christmas gifts since we’d just gotten married, and chose to focus on stuff for our friends/family.

    They aren’t necessary, don’t worry about adding yet another thing to your list!

    Post # 5
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We’re not officially doing gifts… but I bought a cake topper that’s going to be a surprise gift for him. Or “us”, really, since we’ll keep it. He just doesn’t know about it.

    Post # 6
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    1243 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @katiee0707:  We talked about this too.  In the end, we decided to give each other something but that was more because my Darling Husband is a HUGE gift-giver (as in, he loves to give people gifts) and he couldn’t imagine not giving me a present.  lol

    That being said, you don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to.  I’m not really sure it’s even tradition, per say.  I think that if you want to do it, go ahead, but if you don’t, don’t; it’s no biggie.

    Post # 7
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    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We are barely scraping by to pay for this wedding that there isn’t any room for gifts…neither of us feel bad about it either…

    Post # 8
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    my husband and i rarely exchange gifts. even for christmas because we usually do something or go somewhere together so its a “happy christmas/valentines/anniversary honey” and thats it. maybe a nice meal, home or dining out – doesnt matter which. for us its about spending time together

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @katiee0707:  Girl I’m in the same boat! We skipped Christmas, both birthdays and Valentines to make sure we had enough for a wedding. We are skipping gifts too.

    Post # 10
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We didn’t give gifts, it’s just an old tradition. But, if I were to give a gift, it would be something very small and funny/meaningful/symbolic. Just something that will make each other smile, that doesn’t cost much, if anything.

    Post # 11
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    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I don’t think you need to.  We live together as well and our wedding bands will serve as our gifts to each other for the wedding.

    Post # 13
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    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We are in the position of saving up majorly right now for the wedding. What we decided to do was rather than a gift that day we will each plan an activity for us to partake in oN the  honeymoon. It will be a total surprise until the day of the wedding when we will write each other a letter someone will give us the morning of And share our gift to each other as well as I’m sure some other thoughts for the day!! 

    I have no idea what he hhas planned I plan on setting up horseback riding while we are in Ireland on the honeymoon something we’ll remember always

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t think living together has anything to do with it. If you don’t want to give each other gifts for any reason, by all means, don’t! I doubt Fiance and I will. We haven’t discussed it.

    Post # 15
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    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’re not doing anything!  Our rings are gifts!  I’m going to do those “52 things I love about you” with cards.

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